I have been with my partner for nearly 7 years and we have a one year old son together we have had our ups and downs but at the moment everything i say and do is wrong, he snaps at me for the stupidst things and storms out, he excepts me to clean up after him all the time and expects me to do everything he asks. I am home all day every day bringing our child up which is fine but come the weekend i feel its only fair he helps me but he goes out or helps people do things but never me. he tells me he loves me but i cant go on any more when i tell him how i feel he twists it around. i cant go on anymore i feel so lonely and depressed.
2007-02-11 00:36:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you need to get away from this guy. He seems to be developing very controlling habits and some anger issues. It even sounds like there may be more to the story like a girl on the side, or to much drinking, or maybe drugs. You are no ones maid and you should be getting help on the weekends. He is disrespecting you and your relationship. And you can't change a man unless he wants to change himself. He doesn't seem interested in doing anything to better himself for you or your son. If you stay you are teaching your son that it is okay for a man to disrespect a woman. Please for the well being of you and your child get out of there now.
2007-02-11 00:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has lost (all) respect for you and has totally taken you for granted. You my dear are now his: stepping stone, maid, sounding/ranting/raving board, liability, dependent,etc. Why have you all never legalized the partnership(7 years?) Why on earth would you stay in a relationship that long with out a commitment. As the saying goes: "Why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free." He feels like he is entitled to his bullying, irresponsible antics because he doesn't have to respect you. Since you have put up with his **** for this long and than have (tried) to further tie him down with the kid, he is over you. The first indication of his loathing and disregard for your feelings was when he started DISRESPECTING you. Get out while you can before the loathing turns uglier.
2007-02-11 08:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he is pretending and does not truly love you. If he were to love, his attitude would have been a world of difference--liking more of you than disliking; supporting more than turning so callous; explaining more than keeping mum on vital matters. Your living with him just as a partner and in this woeful condition may make you sad and angry too. Before that happens, talk frankly and take a decision. You can meet your friends also and share your problem for better insights and for overcoming your loneliness. Your depressive spells also would be corrected by a frank talk with him and by discussing the issue with your friends.
2007-02-11 08:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by braj k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is tired of the responsibility. My first response would be to kick him to the curb. You can do a lot better on your own but, there is the child to consider.
You need to have a long talk with him and find out what's going on. Be prepared to not like what you hear. And don't cry while you're talking to him. Guys hate that.
If he can't be calm and rational while you are discussing the issues, accept that he is tired of being tied down and suggest he move on.
It won't be easy but you'll be safer emotionally and possibly physically.
2007-02-11 08:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a man. Me and my husband were together 5 five years recently we have a 16 month old and he would get mad storm off and always be gone and then one day he left and never came back. So I would strongly suggest talking to him as best as you can. If that doesn't work then leave him for a little while and he will beg for you back. If that doesn't work still then leave him altogether
2007-02-11 08:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, hon....it's him. Some guys just don't get it and are so absorbed in themselves. You can try talking to him and if that doesn't work, get a friend to help you talk to him, or (worst case scenario)--> go to a counselor and ask for their advice. I'm sorry that you are so down.....I can understand why you feel that way. But as speaking as someone who has been in therapy for almost eight years, people have to want to change....we can't make them change....we can only change our reactions to them....we can't let them have power over us....easier said than done, I know...:-|
2007-02-11 08:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lorraine_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your partner? Why are you not married to him? If a man won't marry you, you should not let him get you pregnant. You can't change him, so decide whether you want to stay in this miserable situation or get out of it.
2007-02-11 08:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a vacation, just you, and think about
with no day to day presure,
sounds selfish, but it does work,
2007-02-11 08:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by outlaw64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in sex play nothing is wrong. but both enjoyed in it
2007-02-11 08:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋