I met this great guy in a chat room, through my friends contact list he lives in my area, is a down to earth christian, who is fun to be with and makes me laugh we have so many things in common from favourite food, movies and both love music and singing. We have been chatting as friends for over a year and in that time i hanged out with him twice watching movies and chatting. Lately we see more of eachother, sometimes we even finish eachothers sentences, and think exactly alike. He told me that he was falling for me I thought great because i was aswell, he is wonderful. Although commited to his church which i have no problem with he said that he might have to break the relationship off because he is deeply into church and has to get his life together, wanting to remain friends. Two weeks later he contacted me saying he made a big mistake and that i am the only girl that has ever understood him, so now we have being seeing eachother again. It feels so right we both agree. Is he the 1?
2007-02-11 00:08:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u'll never know if u don't try......say yes!!
2007-02-11 00:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to tell. I don't know him, so it's hard to give good advice. Having things in common is very important, but the kinds of things you seem to mention having in common are for the most part supperficial. Watching movies and chatting does not qualify in my book as really getting to know each other.
If you're both christian, that is probably the most important thing... are you a christian and commited to church, and could you be in the same church? If you're not a christian, you're wasting your time and his.
If you really want to know someone, you need to know them and accept them when they're being themselves in day to day normal situations. Anybody can be an angel at a movie, and I could be the sweetest guy in an internet chat. Internet chatting has a way of helping people open up and can bring two people together, but sometimes the closenes is an illusion. If you really want to get to know this person you need to spend time with him in church, at work, in school do meaningful things together.
How do you handle finances? Does he handle it the same way?
Do you both understand and have a financial plan for your lives? because if you don't or are still learning, you may still decide you each want a different future.
How about children? If you're thinking about marriage, that is certainly a possibility you should explore.
"it feels so right" ain't good enough.
Although it does make a big difference to have lots of little things in common, don't neglect the big things: faith, finances, future.
There's so much I could tell you from experience, but I don't really know the whole situation. I just hope you don't make some of the same mistakes as I have.
You can send me a message if you want.
I wish you both the best, but remember. "you make your bed, and you sleep in it". so think about it seriously.
2007-02-11 08:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is not a feeling, it's a choice.
if you choose to be with him, to understand how many times life will bring you two down, to be with him even after so many trials, to still feel that affection for him, can you imagine it? can you see a future? relationships can only be saved if you want them to be. every relationship holds hope that brings the lovers into a better, if more difficult, future. you and he will be the ones to either give it your all, or quit. "winners never quit and quitters never win." if you can honestly tell yourself you love him, you choose him to be the one, then..
but the door swings both ways. it takes two to tango. your commitment is not enough. you have to give him time. you may know him well but is it enough to hold you two together? don't scare him off with your anxieties. talk to him. he may be as confused as you are. reflect.
best of luck.
2007-02-11 08:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by impasse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-02-11 08:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a good guy but only time will tell you whether he's the one or not. Enjoy the moment and when it's time to go to the next level you'll know.
2007-02-11 08:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by linatik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAD TO SOMEWHAT STOP MYSELF BECAUSE IF YOU BOTH ARE TOGETHER AS FRIENDS OR REALLY TOGETHER JUST BECAUSE HE IS GETTING INVOLVED WITH CHURCH EVEN MORE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU BOTH WOULD HAVE TO DISTANT YOURSELVES FROM EACH OTHER. IF ANYTHING IT SHOULD BE SOMETHING U BOTH COULD DO TOGETHER. SO I WOULD SAY HE ONLY WANTS TO BE FRIENDS OR REALLY HE WANTS TO BREAK IT OFF ALL TOGETHER, SOMETHING, IF YOU BOTH ARE TOGETHER AND HE KEEPS ON PLAYING GAMES LIKE THAT IN THE FUTURE THEN JUST LET HIM GO BECAUSE THAT MEANS HES UNDICIDED. BUT IT SOUNDS COOL
2007-02-11 08:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by princess_shawnita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to understand honest to goodness christians, you dont come first because God does..i think he is scared to jump right in with you because he wants to make sure its the right thing to do. just be yourself and wait for him if he means that much to you-goodluck
2007-02-11 08:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by amazing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he probaly does you may have a future but if something goes wrong betwee n your future may go a different direction
2007-02-11 08:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by sk8tergirl2795 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... yup! i think he's the one...
2007-02-11 08:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by aurora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋