Is it wrong to love someone so much that you want to spend every moment with them. Is it wrong?

Answer 1

Hi Sami. This has been my question for long, but just recently, I found the answer, so I would like to share it with you.

Firstly, there is no right or wrong in you liking someone so much. It's a feeling that cannot be controlled to more or less. It's your heart after all. But one thing's for sure, liking someone intensely does have a few advantages and disadvantages. The most obvious advantage is that the feeling is great. Your head gets full of lovely dreams, and makes life very happy. On the other hand, you could be harmin yourself. You might be thinking of him so much that you neglect some of the things which you are actually supposed to do. Also, you may miss him so much that you land up crying often. Lastly, your excessive love for him may be obvious to him. You might talk to him a lot, call him often, or even go on chatting with him.

Just recently, I realised that love needs space. I had heard this long time ago, but I thought what's the point of spacing in love? Why can't we just express our love. The other person will feel so happy. Nahh! That's not true!

For me, I have started to keep great distance from the one I like now. It's extremely hard for me. My heart breaks when I see him online, yet can't chat. I have his number saved in my phone, but still, I can't call him to ask him how he is. I know where he might be at a certain time, yet I can't go there to see a glance of him to make myself satisfied that he is fine. Why am I doing this? Space! It's all about keeping distance!

Why do we have to keep some distance from people? There are two reasons for this. First reason is because many of us think that "We can't live without the person we love". Here, we get the chance to check if this is really true. It's a test, where you are not allowed to have contact with your loved one, in order to check if you were under-estimating or over-estimating your love all along. And the second reason is so that you let your loved one miss you. Your loved one will realise how incomplete he is without you. Many times, when we go behind our loved ones, they might get frustrated of always having us behind them. They might find us annoying even if they may not say so. So, you need them to realised the importance of us. They ought to know how important we are and how incomplete their life is without us!!!

Here I am sharing my thought with you, and I feel I'm telling all this once again to myself. To remind myself why I'm keeping distance from him, thanks to you. I strongly suggest you to follow my advice. Trust me, it makes a difference keeping distance. You can go on loving him, but don't let him know that you love him excessively, cause they may start keeping distance from you. All the best!

Answer 2

Not wrong at all. It's a natural feeling, inherent in everyone including animals.

Don't let anyone persuade you into thinking something is wrong.

True love is wanting to be with someone every moment of the day.

This is what you want, don't let anyone take it away.

Jealosy will try to tear your feelings from you.

We have to be gregarious, and not by choice.

Wanting a certain "someone" is a good thing...from among the crowd.

Too many confuse casual aquaintances with what is genuine true feelings for another.

Once you've found that specail person, your heart sings every day. You will recognize it. It's a wonderful feeling.

Answer 3

NO it is not wrong to love so intensely. But have some self control and respect for your self/integrity. Do not smother that love because they will hate it and you in the process. Have your own identity and not become( totally) wrapped up in their life. The reason you all love each other was from what you liked in the beginning of the courtship. When you no longer have or do the things that ATTRACTED THEM (in the beginning) , they lose respect for your (needy) pathetic soul. Do your own thing and have your own friends and let them wonder what you are up to, with who and where. The mystery and the guessing keeps them interested and keeps the relationship alive. You want the other to miss you. How can they if you are smothering and all in their space (and business.) Keep your own Independence or if it's too late, REGAIN (Independence) back immediately or the relationship will be DOOMED.

Answer 4

To feel that way - no. Not at all. My husband and I hate to be seperated. We have to be, going to work and all - and we do have time to ourselves while the other one is working - but that doesn't mean that we don't miss each other, or not want to be together. And yest there are times when we get to spend all our time together. I can tell you it doesn't get old.

I don't know if the other person feels the same way. Remember some people aren't ready for that kind of commitment, or able to understand why you would want to be with them. If there is an off balance to the relationship then it could prove hard. I dated a guy who always wanted to be with me - I wanted space in that relationship. It just depends on the people involved.

Answer 5

Hello, It is not wrong to feel that much love. How you behave is another thing. If you share EVERYTHING you both have and never separate to do anything alone, you will run out of exciting things and fun things to do or to talk about. YOU must enjoy life alone so you can share that joy with them. And this way every time you see them' things are new, fresh and not the same old thing. I had a friend that told me once about his wife, she was like caviar compared to other women, but even then you get tired of eating caviar everyday.

Good luck

Answer 6

The Panel says it's wrong. And I agree But you need to focus on what Real Love is. It's the emotion from the Heart. You don't have be by their side. In order to Love `em. Just be there, when the going gets rough. And show him/her how much you care, when you are around `em. It will only get better. If you give it some Room to grow!

Answer 7

wrong-is a harsh word but say its senseless. understand your feelings but that's just not 'love' its more of an obsession. coz love is free,love includes you two giving each other space,being two people with a good understanding of each other's individuality and respecting one another's trust. that's love.

may be the love your talking about is 'new ' love.(when your affair has just begin or sumin) that's when all these feelings rush in and nothing wrong with that. just keep it under control.. balance it.give your guy a chance to miss you,crave you. all that's more fun !balance it out . I'm sure your more intelligent than your question. -cheers-

Answer 8

Even a chickie in a cardboard box needs space to breathe....Good gosh = seems a little like a stalker to me. Give the person some room to be them and you to be you. So, YES,,,,,it is a tad bit over powering to love someone that much. Are you sure it's love?

Answer 9

Of course it's not wrong . . . just don't let it get out of control (ie stalking).

You want to love yourself as an individual, and spend time for yourselves, so that you can each do different things, learn different things, and then share those things with each other (and enrich each other's lives).

Don't be clingy, emotionally dependant, controlling . . . make moments together happy, but make sure you have moments for yourself, and give him/her space for herself/himself if they need or want it (or if YOU need or want it).

That way you'll enrich each others lives when you are together.

Answer 10

not wrong necessarily, but it will get old fast. Or if the other person doesn't feel quite as strongly you may drive them away. I'm not sure that it's healthy to spend that much time focusing on one person...