My BF is an avid smoker and under sober circumstances has been known to clean me out of a week's worth of groceries in a day due to his voracious appetite (ahem, Glutton!)
So one could imagine the "munchies" in his case, right?
My queston is, since I pay for 100% of our outtings,food,entertainment, etc...is it rude for him to get really high right before we go to dinner ...eat 75% of my food and run up my tab pigging out?
Or am I just being uptight?
2007-02-10 23:43:12 · 11 answers · asked by Basquephantom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW, this is turning into a trend and It's costing me a fortune.
2007-02-10 23:48:22 · update #1
Sounds like he's a "stoner sponge" ....Lose Him or get the "Fry-Boy" to start paying.... Just a thought.... Peace...
2007-02-10 23:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Martini-69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem a couple of months ago. The man that I was dating was about 6'3 and about 215lbs, he was all muscles. We went out to dinner one night at this restaurant. What I ordered was like $12.00, by the time I got the bill it was $56.00. Needless to say that I was pissed. I live by myself, pay my own bills etc. I only go grocery shopping every other week and I usually buy enough to last me til I get paid again. Needless to say he would come over and eat most of my food. He also was a avid weed smoker. He did pay a couple of times, but he would eat off of my plate to. With that and some other stuff that he did I just had to let him go. I felt as if he was not contributing to the relationship and I got tried of spending my money all the time and then having to borrow money from my friends for gas, food etc...... Get rid of him now before it get any deeper..
2007-02-11 00:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by SWEET HEART 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be pissed off. That is outrageous.
Honestly - I wouldn't stand for that. I would tell him to put out or get out. You definetly aren't being uptight. Regardless of whether your boyfriend has, um...other attributes that are 'nice' that doesn't mean you have to be with him. There are a lot of guys out there who don't do this and actually think it's a good thing to help pay for expenses.
The other thing - he has money. He's getting his 'smokes' from somewhere, right? So why deal with this - having him spend all his money on them, and then forcing you to support the rest of his habit?
Also - maybe kicking him out the door will give him a wake up call. No more free munchies. At least free to him.
2007-02-10 23:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not being uptight. He should be paying for at least 50% of all outings, entertainment, etc. & should pay for all his own food if he going to have 'munchies'. He got the money for the weed the he also have money for his own food. He not going to change, so if your really fed up with it then dump him. There are plenty of guys out there that don't smoke weed.
2007-02-11 00:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ghost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in a relationship where you "pay for 100% of our outings,food,entertainment, etc" with a selfish druggie?
If he cared about you, he want to be sober more often to spend some quality time getting to know you. Someone who has to smoke up before spending time with you and then sucks you dry financially and emotionally once you are together doesn't really care about you.
If he really cared about you, he would take care of YOU at least once in a while instead of staying stoned and letting you spend all of your money and plan all of the outing and activities.
Find a man who will want to be in your company...SOBER!
2007-02-10 23:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by NolaD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So far you are enabling him to stay stoned and irresponsible. Is this the relationship you want? If not, move on.
2007-02-11 00:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extremely rude maybe he should start paying for things.
2007-02-10 23:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are u working/earning for urself or for him?
think girl...
ur doing everything for him...is he doing anything for u??? dat will make ur relationship better?
2007-02-10 23:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by an_angel_in_d_sky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uuummmmm....dump him now. He has money for pleasure but not for needs? Duh......He won't change.
2007-02-10 23:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to kick him to the curb
2007-02-10 23:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋