i dated this guy for 2 yrs but he left bc i have lupus when i was in the hospital he left me and told me he wanted to be with some and not have to worry about there health.... now that im better he back and he said sorry he was scared bc i was near death which is trure i was in hospital for 4b month and had surgery . i but i love him but im still hurt what should i do????
2007-02-10 23:09:57 · 15 answers · asked by mickie1108 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
does he love u?
why during in time of trouble he left u?
does he deserve ur love?
being with someone shud be thru thick & thin...if he loves u, he shud'nt have left u...just wen u needed him d most he is gone...except if u told him to leave u coz of ur sickness, did u tell him to go? if not, den he's not d right 1 for u.
2007-02-10 23:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by an_angel_in_d_sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. You NEED a strong guy that you know "has your back" no matter what the scenario may be. Case in point, he was a COWARD!!!! He was selfish, irresponsible, immature, self-centered, etc. that did not want to be bothered. He wanted his (own) freedom and time to do whatever for 4 months. So now that you have recovered, he wants to pick up where it left off before the lupus? Noway!!! What if something were to happen to you again(god forbid), such as an accident, illness or with loved one of yours? Is he going to disappear again and give you the same LAME excuse about being "scared?" Let me just reiterate once more....COWARD!!!!!
2007-02-11 07:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just realized what he did to u when u needed him most. and if he really loved u, why he left u the time that ur sick. where is he when u needed him as ur bf. he is gone right! u know what, that is the right time to prove to u that he loved u dearly if he was there beside u, to give u a support emotionaly and spiritually until ur getting better.... but its sad to say that he is not there.
ur bf want to come back with u, for what???? because ur already better.... he never realize what he did to u,,,, he hurt u so bad... and his sorry is not enough for what he did to u. he is not deserving with ur love. he is selfish person i never known. i know its hurt for u coz u still love him. but please don't let him hurt u again.... u have a right love in the wrong person. its better u forget him and move on... Don't forget to pray and ask Him for his guidance and give u a right decission... i know it is hard for u... but there is a time to be healed ur feeling.
take care and God bless u... advance happy valentines day....
2007-02-11 08:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by ladyjoyax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and Hurt, shouldn't be used in the same sentnce. He didn't care about you. Love is from someone who cares about all of you. You need to look in Your Heart. Listen to that thumpin'. And let it tell you who's gonna really Love you. He's out there. Just wait and listen. I wish you the Best on your Recovery. Happy Valentines Day!
2007-02-11 07:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not the fact that we love those that hurt us most....the fact is that because we love them they have the power to hurt us the most, and sometimes do. Some people don't cope well with the sickness of their loved ones. Others are just self centered to only want the "perfect" mate.
2007-02-11 07:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by vospire s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you certainly have to be careful with this guy. But I don't know how old he is. The illness obviously scared the hell out of him. You should talk about that.
Sometimes we tend to love people who hurt us. The only important thing for you is to know wheather he is hurting you all of the time or just this once.
2007-02-11 07:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because we get hurt the most from the ones we love the most. that is all our expectations. you expect from your loved ones, not from strangers, and only your loved ones can lower your expectaions, the strangers have nothing to do with sth that is not there for them.
there was a story....
A man was every day visiting his wife who had lost her memory and cound not recognize any one.....some day the doctor asked him, "when she cannot recognize you why do you still keep visiting her?" in reply to which he said, "i know that she cannot recognize me, but i can."
that is the real love....if he left you when you were in hospital, afraid that you may die, when you needed his support an love, then he doesnt worth you at all......he does not deserve your love......forget about him and try to began your life with a new start....look out girly there are thousands of guys who really know how to treath a lady whom they claim they love......they know how to respect and how to value your love for them....Good luck!
2007-02-11 07:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about you illness, but you know already that he is going to leave you again if things start to go wrong, he is a coward, and love hurts but only you can make up your mind.
2007-02-11 07:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may just leave you again when you do get sick again...which will happen with lupus as you know....so you need to decide whether you would prefer to be happy for even a little while and take a chance on him or not....good luck and hope you stay healthy
2007-02-11 07:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont bother.. if someone is so into themselves to care for one they love.. why r u even thinking of it.... it may happen again and a relationship is ment to last esp for the bad times... people who up and leave at the sign of extra effort or lil bad time.. are weak and untrust worthy....
2007-02-11 07:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋