When the baby was born did they make moves to get back and if so why did you take him back if you had been negleted when you needed them most, how could you forgive such selfish behaviour?
In my case I got pregnant, he delighted at telling everyone, then dumped me before are wedding, now wants backs (only because I financially more secure than him) when I refused, he refused any child support payments. Now at 38 weeks I think he family are under some strange illusion that I could take a weak man like this back. My family and friends would be appaulled if I did, but Im interested to know what was the insentive for taking your partner back, financial support, for the child or perhaps giving the family unit thing a go, even though the trust must be gone?
2007-02-10 23:09:49 · 10 answers · asked by oceanwaves 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yeah, I found out he was cheating when I was 4 months preg with the 2nd. I dumped him and took our kids as he was emotionally doing them harm. He wanted to come back when his girlfriend cheated on him but I said NO WAY!!!
2 yrs later I met a wonderful man, who thinks my kids are his own and our family is better now than it would have been with the biological dad. The kids know the truth but love the man who is raising them more than the one who created them. We bought our own home and both have well paying jobs, the kids have stability, while my ex is renting and in debt.... Karma
What I'm trying to say is sometime taking them back for the sake of the kid isn't always what's best
2007-02-11 01:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When we found out I was pregnant my partner decided it wasn't for him. He wanted a year to decide if he wanted to be involved. I gave the the choice to be a part immediately or not at all. He chose immediately and was there throughout the pregnancy and after. The problem was he was only there for the baby, he wasn't there for me, so in answer to your question. If you don't love your partner, allowing them back in your life for the child seems like the right thing on the surface, but life is so much harder now than if I were going it alone. My son loves his dad, but he is constantly disappointed. His dad doesn't call for three days because it's not 'his'time. He doesn['t support the things my son wants to do. Things between his dad and I are strained and occasionally erupt into nasty scenes. None of this is good for my son. If I had it to do over I sould have let him stay away like he initially wanted.
2007-02-11 00:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Grassy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnate and he left me when I was 1 month along. I didn't even know I was, but he did.
Come to find out in court over paternity and childsupport, he was married and had 3 kids. I was blown away by the news. We had been friends for a year and he was living with me for 3 months, at the time I got preg. I haven't seen him since he went to drop off the drycleaning and pick me up some pepto!
That was 4 years ago. I haven't seen any child support either.
2007-02-11 05:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to take him back then dont.
he cant refuse to pay child support, you could take him to court for it and he would have to.
theres no point in being with him if you cant trust him, thats why im not with the father of my baby. Im 35weeks5days pregnant and not with him because i lost all my trust for him, he has a bad habbit of lieing and such. Just stay strong then take him to court for child support payments and wait for the right man to come along and be what you need for you and your child.
2007-02-11 01:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex never asked me to come back, but I'd have refused if he had. The trust would've been gone, and I dread to think how my (technically our) daughter would have grown up with that amount of tension and probably constant arguing in the house.
2007-02-12 00:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by captainreilly83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i split with my partner when i was three months pregnant he couldnt take responsibility for the baby ive got my son who is 1 yr old now and he keeps trying to get back me or my son dont need him and never will he has seen him once since he was born i would never take him back he denied my son twice never again now i just say he was a sperm donation that all he was worth slime
2007-02-11 00:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by jorli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i almost left my husband after we lost our first baby because he just seemed so heartless but then i figured it's just his way of dealing with things then when i got pregnant again i walked out when i was 6 months because he was more intrested in doing thing with his friend than anything else but we sorted things out because i thought i owned it to my marridage and my child but everything was still them same when our second child was born so i left and filed for divorse the best thing i could have done
2007-02-10 23:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by nat 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 23:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have, I found the relationship was not going to work.
My trust and faith in him was destroyed by him.
I also found life to be easier with out him in the home.
Good Luck.
2007-02-11 01:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine decided he was gay and left me for my nephew. i don't want him back after that. he visits every xmas and birthday though and that's enough for us
2007-02-11 03:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋