If you were me, How would you respond to my Girlfriend's e-mail? Please help!! Thankyou so much!?

Question

Dearest Sexy,

I have a proposition for u. I have been thinking about this 4 many many days now, so I am 100% sure this is something I'd personally like to do.

Remember when we had that misunderstanding about where u would stay after you move here? I originally stated that only a short-term stay was workable. Well, I thought about it 4 awhile after that, and decided that it might actually be a good idea to share a household. Let me give you a run-down of the idea I had in mind.

I think u would be a good roommate, when u move to here. If u take this offer, u would be in for 1/3 of the expenses (since there would be 3 people here.) This comes out to about $350 a month which includes all current utilities. I would simply ask 4 that as a flat rate each month. U would have ur own room, baby and I would share a room (the bigger of the 2, currently my office).

Even though we are involved with each other in an intimate way, I still think looking at this like a practical roommate arrangement is best.

Here are some reasons why I think this will be beneficial. From a compatibility standpoint we are both quiet people, have similar sleep patterns, value clean and tidy housekeeping, are frugal, don't watch TV much, and have mutual respect. This arrangement stands to help us both financially; I could pay off debt and afford online college. I'm sure u could do something special with the extra cash, whether it be saving up, investing, helping your mom, going back to school, or anything ur heart desires.

Domestic tasks would also be simpler if we break it into roles we both enjoy. I could make dinner most nights, and u could take care of most of the yard work. Food expenses could be casually shared & we could benefit from buying in bulk. Cleaning house is something we already do in our current homes; I feel assured u are the type to clean up after yourself even with a woman in the house.

It's important to note that due to work, travel, and school, we would still not have a lot of time to see each other even if we lived together. I would be busy once I got home, and we might be seeing each other only at dinner.

U would have time to yourself probably every week since you get mostly weekdays off. I would still visit my family every other weekend. But, we could go on dates/"sleepovers" just as usual when baby is away (Wednesdays and every other weekend). Except, there would be no 2 1/2 hour drive to worry about.

The things that might pose problems are as follows. We could not probably have 3 cats here. Also, there may not be enough room for all your furnishings. These are two things we will have to work on if u take this offer.

U will also have to decide if you are prepared to live in a home with a 7-year old. Some days are fun, but some days are annoying. You would not be expected to take on a parental role. However, because Nessa admires you she will probably seek your attention sometimes. She is talkative and asks lots of questions, and wants to be included in things. Every so often she might pitch a fit over something that seems irrational and it is a very unpleasurable thing to witness. You are a good role model, and this is also a benefit to me & Nessa. But, you have to consider whether this is a benefit to you. Think about whether being a male role model is a rewarding experience to your heart, or if it doesn't really do anything for you. Remember it is normal to get disgusted by children, especially when they are not your own. Just recognize whether you are willing/able to cope with such feelings from time to time.

Anyways, I plan to get rid of some more junk if you decide to make this move. That way we won't be so crowded. I do think there is plenty of room for the three of us, as long as we stay reasonably organized and avoid excess. Neatness will be important.

If you'd like to do this, let me know. U do not have to give an immediate answer; just think about it. Please read at least twice before making a decision.

I hope u have a deliciously wonderful day!

Yours always,

Pumpkin

Answer 1

I think she is amazing. She has obviously thought this thru and made a decision based on facts not emotion, which is very difficult for women. She has gone so far as to include feelings about living with kids. They are accurate but not easy to admit. She is straight forward and honest and I am in awe of her. Come to a decision using the information she gave you and you should do fine. You are a lucky guy, hang on to her, she's rare. Good luck to both of you.

Answer 2

Well, to me, it seems she wants you to move in, but she is making it clear that even if you do, you won't be spending any more quality time together because you are not her number 1 priority. Her child comes first (as it should) her family comes 2nd and you come in 3rd when she can squeeze in the time. Her moving in proposal has more to do with convenience and money than it does about taking the relationship any further emotionally or on a commitment stand point. It sounds more like a roommate with benefits kind of a deal. I would ask myself if you think you can handle living with her under her terms or not. I have a feeling you will be disappointed about the living arrangements if she sticks to her terms. You may end up resentful and lonely. I think I would find a place of my own and move in with her if the relationship moves to that point, but I wouldn't do it now. It is your life though, only you can decide what is best for you.

Answer 3

I admire her honesty. even however, the key is: "I presently have not any destiny activity " that's how she feels. which could (and specific will, sooner or later) substitute, even yet it could no longer. You did no longer say your an prolonged time. while you're the two 30 and you desire to get married and start up a family members and he or she could be 10+ years from the form of factor, you're greater effective off breaking apart now once you're nevertheless early. do no longer waste one yet another's lives. while you're the two 19 or something i would not subject too lots. lots can substitute and it continuously does.

Answer 4

She loves you but she is worried about you. She is worried you will leave her after. She is worried about the home and kids things. She loves you very much and she doesnt want to lose you after you move with her. If it was me I would just go and give her a big hug. Give her a big hug and tell her that everything will be ok. Take care of her. If you are not ready you are not a man yet, so dont move with her. This email is sad and it show how much she cares about you so much. All those words just for you, you are lucky man but you need to take care of her and care for her as well. Good luck, meet her face to face, give her a big hug and tell her I everything will be ok, that is if you are man enough to take responsibility. Good luck.

Answer 5

It all boils down to two things. She wants to live together and she wants you to play, "Daddy". That is expected to be a long term thing with a lot of implications. If you see this relationship progressing to a possible marriage, I say go for it.

Answer 6

It seems like she gave you both sides of the story. It is up to you now to really think about it and see what it means for you. Nobody can answer this e-mail for you. If you don't feel comfortable moving in just don't I don't think she'll hold it against you.

Answer 7

Umm..how about tell her yes or no? It was too long to keep my attention span but the general jist is that she wants you to move in with her? Say yes or no. Also, next time just sum it up. I doubt she'd be very happy you posted it publicly.

Answer 8

wow that is long but i think she is controling and i dont think you cant breath in that relashionship and you seem nice but good luck if you want to break up with her but if you want to text her hey how you doing she answers and say how was your day there you go {but deriously why dont you guys talk to each other it sounds to me like she is emberessed of you }

Answer 9

Get a place of your own, she seems very controlling! After a while if you still wish to go her way, that is up to you!

Answer 10

Why didn't she talk to you in person or on the phone? Go with what your heart tells you.