Hi, I’m a guy who’s 24 years old, and still a virgin. Now the reason why I’m still a virgin is by choice, because I have strong beliefs in abstaining from sex till marriage. The problem is that I’m scarred of getting into a relationship because of this, because I’m afraid that the girl I’m with may not be strong enough to wait with me. If that situation did happen where she did have an affair what should I do, more importantly how can I get over my insecurities about this, and learn to trust women?
2007-02-10 22:54:42 · 9 answers · asked by X 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well first off how would you know if you don't give it a try??? that's the first step, secondly stop being so hard on yourself learn to trust there are plenty of women out there who would respect the way you feel. but then you also have those who wont, and that's the scary part about getting involved with someone b/c we don't know their true character and we usually don't find out until we have gotten deeply involved. and i think that is what you are afraid of giving your heart to someone but only to get hurt in return...you have to get rid of all of those negative thoughts...befor you can start dating anyone life is not perfect there is going to always be someone that is going to hurt us regardless...and if you do get involved with someone who happens to cheat on you....i think you should forgive them but the catch is to forgive and move on...b/c you know when someone cheats on you they'll most likely do it again....but in the long run it will make you a stronger human being....so i think you should get over your insecurities and start dating.
2007-02-10 23:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do other types of sexual activitys besides 8==D ----> O
and if your not up for that than, im pritty sure if the girl really loves you and wants to be with you, than she wouldnt mine waiting. Some girls always complain because all there partners want to do is have intercourse and some always complain because they dont get enought, but that is mostly married wonmen. for you i say it is better to make many women friends that you can go out to bars with, talk, hang out....etc that way you dont need a sort of girlfriend and then actually look for a person that not only wants to be your quote, un quote Girl friend but is whilling to establish a long-term relationship with you. From there It would be better if you tell the truth, if you like some one and you want to start a relationship with him/her than that would be the time to indeed bring up the fact that you are a Virgin, after being good friends but not quit before getting together.
2007-02-11 07:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud your choice, conviction. You should talk with your girlfriend as to her concerns, expectations, needs, etc., and same, with yours, about this relationship to lessen your fears. If you have a good communication with each other, you both can express your feelings and mutual decisions, regarding the relationship continuation. 'Ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure'.
2007-02-11 10:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by roses2500 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can cheat once, than she can cheat again....
Just hope that you find the right girl that won't lie to you...You can only take her word for it...
There are many people out there that are like you, as long as she gives you no reason to not trust her, than do trust
2007-02-11 06:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by diamond_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how will u know if u will not get into it?
it's like saying...is fire hot? u will not know if u will touch it, right? many people say it is coz dey might have touched it once in der life. & dey have learned not to touch it again coz its hot...
let it be charge to ur experience if ever she will cheat u or not. take d risk else ull just be stuck fr wer u r right now.
no matter wat people advice u to ur question here, u will not know it still coz ur afraid of getting into it. it's also part of ur insecurity problem. people wilth self-confidence will grab any chance that will pass their way whether dey will fail or succeed.
2007-02-11 07:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by an_angel_in_d_sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to join one of those church-based virginity groups and only date girls with similar convictions. If you don't like any of them, you are screwed....no pun intended.
2007-02-11 06:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by jax0817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no mmove on 0nce cheaterr always cheater
2007-02-11 06:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by mickie1108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married
2007-02-11 06:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-02-11 07:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋