Whatssss wrong with me?

Question

I have been suffering with anxiety and depression for the last two months, I feel panicky all the time and suffer with hyperventalation/Pins and needles. I feel so trapped and alone, I've just arranged some counselling sessions...will this be the answer to my problems? I have family issues and final year exams...

thanx

Answer 1

Stress kills.

sort it out and prioritize your life. Do you want to live long or die young?
Figure out right now what is important and discard what is not.

Answer 2

This kind of panicky feeling I experienced when i was young - I even went to the GP bcause I thought I breathing was being affected. If it's any help it now seems so distant, like a strange process that I had to go through when i was late teens, early twenties. These are hard times with a lot for you to worry about.

Only you can really know whether the amount of anxiety you are feeling is directly attributable to the negative circumstances you are subject to or something more - but a counsellor should help you process this more clearly.

No counsellor is the 'answer to anyone's problems' but a skilled counsellor will help you see yourself more objectively, and he problems you face more honestly. I would say that not all counsellors are great so go into the session with an open but alert mindset. Initially there should be exploration of what are the underlying causes of your feelings but at some point the emphasis should shift to strategies for coping - if the shift never happens then reappraise the worth of the counsellor.

Apart from this maybe read up on mindfullness (lots of websites), it is a useful tool for the moments that seem intolerable.

I hope the family issues get sorted out, i can imagine it's difficult. If they don't then I think you may just have to say: 'this is me at a crucial point in my life and I can't let the negativity of others actions and lives interfere with this.' And remove yourself a little bit.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I suffer from the exact same problems as you have described. I've had dehabilitating panic attacks ever since I was 10. Although, there is no actual physical cure for things like this, I learned from experience that counseling can actually help; talking to someone about what's bothering you can be a huge stress reliever; especially someone who knows what you're going through.

Have you ever considered your "Anxiety Triggers?" These are things that we constantly worry about, even subconsciously. You mentioned that you have family issues and finals??? Going to a therapist and having them analyze my problems, they found that a huge underlying cause of my anxiety was family problems.

Just try to relax a bit more; it can be hard to do; I've been there too. You'll eventually get through it. Good luck with everything.

Answer 4

Sounds like the anxiety is caused by the family issues you mentioned and now the exams on top of it, you are doing the right thing in arranging counselling sessions. These issues will pass, stay strong and keep up with the counselling sessions.everything will be ok.

Answer 5

See your doctor also. Have him check your thyroid (pins & needles feeling and anxiety/ depression are some signs of thyroid). Life can be overwhelming....take time out for yourself....treat yourself to a day at the spa or go out with the girls for a fun night. I'm on Paxil for mild depression and it seems to be working so far.

Good luck...hope you feel better soon.

Answer 6

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 7

I had similar problems about 15 years ago. It was horrible and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

What helped me was to work on ways to cope with the stress and to manage it. I started Yoga (which I would highly recommend) and learned ways to relax. I quickly learned how to relax almost at will by using breathing exercises. I also used relaxation tapes. You will get over it in time but you must learn how to relax. Good luck

Answer 8

The symptoms you have described could also have physical causes; diabetes, vitamin B deficency, anaemia, or even thyroid problems. I believe a blood test will provide some help as to why you're having these problems.

Answer 9

vegans sometime suffer with stress and anxiety. If this is so in you're case then it is probably due to a vitamin B12 deficiency. I would advise you to go to you're General Practitioner and ask for a vitamin B12 booster jab.

Answer 10

The counseling might do the trick, but you might need medication too. You'll have to talk to a medical doctor. Preferably a psychiatrist, but any medical doctor will do.