of a great relationship, but he tells you he wants to talk to you about something and he wants to be honest with you, caught between scared if he tells you you will leave him or should he not tell you and keep his secret that tears him apart day after day, As scared as he is to tell the one he loves with all his heart, he knows he has to be honest - so he tells you that since age 13 he is a CrossDresser, mostly at home in private and scared shi*less of being caught, still at age 38 he is as unsure of that realm of life as he was the day it started, hes not gay, hes not bi-, and he worships the ground you walk on, Do you stay and try to understand with him and no matter what love him as he is and he does love you as you are as well _or are you narrowminded and tell him you never want to see him again while suggesting he seek help ?
2007-02-10 22:48:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I,d be a little taken back by it for a minute but then,what the hack he loves me for me, and so i also in turn love him for who he is! just so long as he doesn't start borrowing my things,and his taste in clothes doesn't get to where I'm jealous of his clothes! just kidding.........?????? than i can borrow his things!
2007-02-10 22:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by TJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obviously a shock to a woman when she discovers that the man she's attracted to, and possibly in love with, is a crossdresser. However, if she is the type that's intelligent and takes the time to do some SERIOUS research about the subject, she will learn that it's not as uncommon as she might have thought. SERIOUS research means having to 'weed out' those sites which are basically not much more than sensationalists and seeking out some reputable information. Estimates are that 10% of the male population crossdress to some extent on a regular basis and 90% of these are totally heterosexual.
What seems to be one of the most difficult things for women to understand about a crossdresser is that many of the very personality traits which they find attractive in a man are directly related to his need to crossdress. The reason for this is that the typical crossdressing male has an appreciation and admiration for femininity which is far and above that of the average male. This makes for someone who can genuinely appreciate and identify with the opposite gender in a way that non-crossdressers will never be able to.
If one isn't closed-minded and is wise enough to read up on what heterosexual crossdressers truly are (and even more importantly what they're NOT), that person may find that he or she appreciates the crossdressing person even more than ever before.
2007-02-11 04:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by senorita_cd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to think I'd be supportive, ask him to show me how he looks, what he does.... I'd have a lot of questions. I guess you should be prepared for that.
I think many women are more comfortable with crossdressers in the abstract than the concrete. Feel her out on crossdressing in general first. I'm not sure how. Watch Tootsie? Joke about wearing her things? You should be able to think of something. I've only been thinking about this for a minute or two. You've had YEARS. :)
It must be tough to tell a secret like that. Worse would be to get married and tell afterwards, I think.
Emphasize how much you have to trust her to tell her something no-one else knows.
2007-02-12 23:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Meg W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its a cliche answer but if she loves you no matter what, then she'll stay, and she's the right girl for you. If she goes, then as hard as it will be, you will know that she wasn't the one for you after all. So tell her, its much better to be honest with yourself and everyone in your life, than to live a lie for the sake of making others happy. Lifes too short. And if the worst happens, there's plenty more fish in the sea! Loo on it as fate, everything happens for a reason.
Wish you all the luck
2007-02-10 23:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would be open minded and stay, thats not something thats going to hurt anyone, its just who you are. On the otherhand, she could be dissapointed that you wernt honest in the begining, and leave anyway. If you have a solid enough relationship then it should all work out, provided she can deal with that. If shes not then its not ment to be. No one was ment to live in the shadows of who they truly are, especially around the ones they love, and the ones that love them. Good Luck:)
2007-02-10 22:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by ashleynicole452 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how she would react if you told her that, it depends on the kind of girl she is. If it was me, I would still be friends with him but might not be attracted to him as much, but it depends on how much I liked him to start off with. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker neccessarily. I think it would be kind of fun, we could go clothes shopping together!! :)
2007-02-10 22:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this happened to me, I would stay and try to understand him.
2007-02-10 22:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love cross dressers and drag queens/kings, so I would stay with him.
2016-05-25 10:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he doesnt steal my clothes im ok.
but i would back off a bit. it's kinda freaky, although no one 's perfect.
2007-02-10 22:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay.
2007-02-10 22:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by misunderstood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋