Dating my son's father's....................?

Question

I have known this guy for 9 years and we now have a 2 month old son. There is this guy that my son's father calls his brother (no bloodline). He is just my baby's father's sisters sibling. The guy and I have always had an unspoken attraction to each other. Since I got pregnant my son's father who is a chronic mama's boy basically gave me his @ss to kiss. He has no interest in doing anything unless its for his mama. For 8 of these 9 years I had no interest in him. He has been in love with me since forever. We got together and it didn't work. I did attempt to make it work but it didn't. Since my son has been born me and the other guy have been casually dating. We inadvertently got close due to me reaching out to him trying to understand my son's father and his issues with his mama. I take excellent care of my son, I have a career and my own everything. Is it wrong for me to pursue a relationship with this guy, I mean technically we are grown and isn't all fair in love & war?

Answer 1

no its not wrong go for it the baby daddy need to man up
good luck with the new guy

Answer 2

LMAO!

I like your "ending" to justify this hot mess. "Isn't all fair in love & war".

Let me blow your mind.

No, all isn't fair in love and war. War is a form of aggression and is defined as "a major armed coinflict between nations or between organized parties within a state." L.O.V.E.
stands for

Living
Our
Values
Everyday

What kind of values do you have when you are usurping another's sovereignty and engaged in brutal conflict. That doesn't sound like family values or relationship values!

I mean think about, you are FIGHTING and hurting other people all in the name of getting YOUR needs met. But you will suggest that your intent was noble and good!

Oh hell to nawl!

So in other words you got "knocked up" by your baby fatha with whom you had no real connection with (other than for the booty calls) because you were BORED, HORNY, and needed some partner when you wanted to screw? That's what vibrators are for.

Honestly, if you weren't that enamored with your baby fatha because of his "momma's boy"-itis, then why did you decide to even sleep with him when you knew there was a possibility, though remote, that you could get pregnant and have to raise a son with him.

First, you will ALWAYS lose to MOMMA for a momma's boy, until she dies. The bad news is that he will put you in MOMMA's role should she die prematurely, UNLESS he finds another woman BETTER than YOU. At the rate he is going -- this could be defined as baby momma #2 or baby momma #3!

Now, it is DEAD WRONG to deal with any family members of your baby fatha because whatever you do WILL GET BACK TO HER or HIM. You are screwing with O.P.P. How can I explain it, should I take it frame-by-frame like Naughty by Nature?

You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. However, if you need to find a new guy to make that happen, you should find a WHOLE new social net instead of ferreting for slim pickings in your baby father's family. Dealing with any of his family members is the worst form of self-sabotage. In the end, you will lose everytime -- you are outgunned and outnumbered!

Finally, your intent with dealing with your NEW GUY is totally irrelevant. Just remember when you use, "inadvertently" and "unintentionally", you are typically describing an act that a normally prudent person would consider:

Disrespectful
Inconsiderate
Vindictive
Abominable

Did you notice that the acronym for this is D.I.V.A.?

God Bless.

Answer 3

I would think that since the two of you now have a child in common. Of course, the two of you need to have a relationship. At least one that allows two adults to communicate openly regarding the child. Both of you must put your own feelings aside and think about what is best for the child. The two of you both being mature adults should be able to maintain a friendly relationship with open communication for the sake of the health and emotional welfare of the child involved. Good luck and God bless****