pretty new girl sitting alone at lunch?

Question

i moved to this new school on mid-january and i just knew one girl. i ate lunch with her the first couple of weeks but i can tell she is getting annoyed b/c evrytime i get to where she's sitting she kind of goes to another table so both of us can be alone instead of with her friends. i got the hint and stopped eating lunch with her, but where do i sit now? i already have almost 4 weeks in my new school. i think it would be expected for me to have somewhere to sit. i am pretty friendly and talkative in class and i discuss topics with teachers, i think i'm pretty good-looking, and i do hang out with people in class, i just can't seem to hang out with them during lunch or talk to them about something that's not-school related and i don't want to seem like an annoying girl who clings-on to a clique when she's not wanted there. i already joined some clubs to meet new friends and have something to do during lunch. would it b wierd for me to sit alone and wait for someone to cometalk to me?

Answer 1

If you spot any of the peeps from your class then just go over, start talking to them and ask if they mind you joining them for lunch. Topics of conversation outside of school could be: the latest film at the cinema, what they did at the weekend or what are they planning to do the weekend coming, fave football team, hobbies, girls/boys, maybe even arrange a night out with them to the pictures or the beach???

Its not nice, and can be very scary, the thought of rejection is just as hard as the reality of rejection, however, be brave, bite the bullet and stop thinking that you are boring and that no one will like you - remember, everyone will be talking so it wont be upto you to 'entertain' everyone all the time - Deep breath, bite the bullet and pull out all the charm, fun and charisma you know you really have!!!!

I wouldnt suggest you 'sit alone' all the time, although there is nothing wrong with it, the others make think you 'prefer' to sit alone, especially if you are a young age, where other kids might see you as a loner and odd.

Just be yourself, you'll be fine


GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

It's always tough starting over in a new school, but it seems as if you're on the right track. The people you meet in class and in the clubs that you have already joined are a good place to start. After all, they have to eat lunch also. You can either set something up ahead of time, or simply join them if they're already seated when you arrive. After you've done this a few times, they'll start joining you if you get there first. I grew up as an "army brat", so I know that making new friends is not easy. Best of luck!

Answer 3

Well, you're new, so of course you're not going to know many people, but it sounds like you're on the right track.

In class, try asking some of the nicer people you've met so far if they'd mind letting you go to lunch with them. They'll know you're new so they should understand that you don't really have any social network or anything, and I'm sure someone will let you go with them.

Otherwise, sitting alone at lunch is bad if you want any socializing. I (well, I'm a guy, so I don't know if it would apply to your not) always went to lunch alone... it was alright for the nice quiet you experience every lunch period between classes, but no one will talk to you... Sometimes someone I knew from class would come and talk to me but for the most part they just said "Hi" and kept walking. If you're alone, people just won't approach you because of the appearance you'll give off... And since you're a pretty girl, I imagine more people might try talking to you, but you gotta be careful around some of those "nice" guys :\

Answer 4

If you sit alone, nobody will ever just come talk to you. Instead, just find some people you know through class or a club and ask if you can sit in an empty seat at their table. They probably won't say no, and if they're interested in getting to know you they'll just automatically include you in their conversation by asking you some questions. If they don't talk to you after they sit down, try a different table the next day.

Answer 5

Wow. Another teen tragedy.

I don't know where to sit when I eat lunch? How about just eating your lunch and reading a book during that 45 minutes of your life and getting some friends outside of school first. Young girls are catty anyway and if you're new and even halfway good looking, they see you as a threat. Give it time. You're the FNK (F...ing New Kid). Sooner or later, you won't be and you can treat the next FNK that comes in the same way next year!

Answer 6

Its really hard ti fit in at your age. just be very confident when you walk into the lunch room. If your unsure of yourself that shows and the outher kids will see that. just walk up to a table that looks friendly and say hi Im (Sam) example: is anyone sitting here? just make sure that you dont show that your nervous because kids can be mean and use that against you. compliments work great too . to start a discussion example: hey I love that shirt, I have one simalar, where do you shop? also ask questions as a clue to what interests them. and look for clues. perhaps the name of a rock band written on a book cover or folder.

Answer 7

Oh Gosh - You sound exactly like me at this age. I found it sooooo hard to fit in during the "free time" of my school day. I fit in fine during class, but at lunch I was just lost. Try reading a book, or doing homework, or taking your ipod to school - anything to keep yourself busy or perhaps find a room where you can do something else - a cool teacher that lets kids in during lunch? I hate to say this, but it is the hardest time of your life. Once you get out of high school - this will all be over. Being a grown up is so much easier.

Answer 8

Sounds like perhaps you are trying too hard, perhaps talking too much. Sit by yourself for a while, read a book; not a text book, but something sort of interesting that someone might ask you about. Can't hurt.

Answer 9

WOE is he who walks the halls of a high school alone.

Just keep your eye on the ball. High school is not the end of the world. College is heaven compared to High School. Just keep reminding yourself that this is just another stepping stone in life.

Answer 10

Maybe you should try asking someone if you can eat with them? If they look like real asssholes then dont but the best way to make friends is to just ask if you can sit w/ someone. It cant hurt to try!