Okay here is the deal. I have been "friends" with this girl for about 5 years, and she has done nothing, but caused me problems--let me explain:
Well when we were in high school I had other friends and then I just find out that she used to talk bad about me which I just firgured that was just HIghschool drama like usual!! SO I forgot and forgave!
THen I got w/ one of my exs and I was with him for 3 years and she would tell me bad things about him and tell me he was controlling and find things wrong with him so I would dump him, When our relationship finally ended every other guy I dated she said bad things about too, She has been with this same guy for 6 years they have a child together and he beats her all the time they do nothing but fight and agrue.
Well then I get with my now finace and when we first started dating she would tell me how sick he was and she used to work with him and all. and how he would F everyone from work and all this.
Then she worked with my finaces br
2007-02-10 21:51:36 · 5 answers · asked by kamdens mommy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Then she worked w/ my finaces brother in law which his wife is my best friend, and she started all these nasty rumors and said I am the one who said all of that stuff which I didnt. and they almost didnt want me to come around them anymore b.c of some of the stuff she said.. Which I called and told her I thought it would be best if we werent friends but she still calls and leaves voicemails saying oh I need some one to talk to and all or sometimes she calls blocked and of course I answer.
Well it is time for me to get married and when she talks to me she keeps saying when and if she gets married she wants me in her weddin and I feel she is saying that so I have her in mine, but I dont want her in and I dont want her just showing up she knows when and where it is...
my questions are
What do I do?
And what if she just shows up @ my wedding?
She is such a drama queen and has to be center of attention and its suppose to be MY DAY please help!!
2007-02-10 21:57:20 · update #1
You are a very accepting, nonjudgmental and forgiving friend. She doesn't deserve your friendship. She is probobly not happy with herself and her relationships, so she tries to find things wrong with yours or probobly is making up things to sabotage your relationships with others. You sound like to nice of a person to let her do this to you. I would avoid her as much as possible, maybe occasional visits. But she sounds to toxic! She also sounds as if she is jealous of your other relationships with others. It will be difficult at first, but think of our own happiness. Also the other people in your life are being affected by her behavior, by her lying about them and talking badly about them and may indirectly come back to you. They (your other friends and fiance'} may think all of the bad talk initiated with you and you could lose them as well. Good Luck, you sound like a good person in a tough spot.
2007-02-10 22:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by ginger 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite her to your wedding. But, if she shows up, be gracious about it. Spend your time with other guests after a polite hello. Don't spoil your big day with bad happenings.
Basically, don't waste your time with this girl. She is a manipulator, and you don't need her in your life.
2007-02-11 08:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you may have to do, is tell your ushers that she isn't invited to your wedding/reception. If she shows, they can nicely say that it is by "invitation only" and they cannot let her in. If she persists, have them call the police. You never have to know about it until you are back from your honeymoon. PS, congrats!
2007-02-11 08:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by heatherbee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
since u dont seem to be the confrontational type u can eithe just not invite her and if she asks just tell her she is not invited and if she does show up speak and move on.
2007-02-11 17:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time to drop this friend!
If she shows at your wedding, have someone show her the door.
2007-02-11 10:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ara57 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋