Grandfather is very educated and is also an atheist. Would he be insulted if I got married in my future husbands Catholic Church?
I did not want to offend my grandfather as he and his wife has treated me like i was one of the family for a long time.
2007-02-10 21:49:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes you can and Im sure he would be honoured to do so, have a great day :-)
2007-02-10 21:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE! Don't be silly. It's YOUR big day. Ask your grandfather how he feels. Tell him how much it would mean to you to have him give you away and then go from there. Don't worry about what other people think. It's your wedding. Come on. Do you want to remember that you did what was right and proper or do you want to remember that you did what you felt was right in your heart. If your grandfather has been like a father to you, then he should be the one giving you away. Talk to him. You'll never know till you ask. I'm sure he would be honored to walk you down the isle regardless of what religion it was.
Ignore the above comment. You do not have to be a believer in god in order to go to a wedding. You grandfather loves you thats all that matters.
2007-02-11 06:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by mlsz28 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have anyone you want give you away.....I have given away a good friend...I have seen brothers give sisters away, grandfathers, Uncles.......It isn't set in stone anywhere that i have seen that it has to be your father. You know your Grandfather better then anyone on this forum....do you think he would be offended? I have only seen Catholics really put up a stink about what religion church their loved ones get married in (as long as it is a christian one) and for the most part it is just a blurb and gone. Lost in the excitement and merriment of the occasion.
2007-02-11 06:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by vospire s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best answer for this question would be from your grandfather. Don't make the mistake that you can find the answer t his likes or dislikes ONLINE. Talk to him in person and I am sure that he will walk you down the aisle. The marriage ceremony is just that; a ceremony, nothing more nothing less. You are not asking your grandfather to convert to the Catholic Religion. Walking you down the aisle is something every father would love to do; atleast the fathers that I know.
Don't be scared, just ask him.
2007-02-11 06:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by codereaper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have anyone you want to give you away!
As far as how to tackle the situation with your grandfather's beliefs, just tell him that you'd really like it and be honored if he'd give you away at your wedding, but you also understand his religious beliefs and would not want to make him uncomfortable. If he's uncomfortable, then it could get in the way of your very special day.
Just talk to him and see how he feels. Something tells me he'd be quite honored to give you away!
2007-02-11 06:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, the question is:
Would your future husband and his family be insulted if you brought an avowed non-believer into the house of God? The place where they (presumably) worship?
However, considering that they know you were raised by a non-believer, perhaps their faith is not important to them. In that case, I really think the appropriate place to be married is in a judge's chambers, or maybe a friend's home. And that way you wouldn't risk offending your grandfather's "beliefs."
2007-02-11 05:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you try talking to him, ask him if he would be insulted, only he knows that answer. And the second part, if he is your grandfather, wouldn't he be your family? If so I hope that he did treat you like family, b/c that is what family's are supposed to do. But just talk to him!
2007-02-11 06:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Crystial 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Grandfather. Most atheists are very open minded and non judgmental. Even if he thinks religion is a bunch of nonsense, I imagine he would be honored and pleased to present his granddaughter in her wedding.
But he is the one you need to be asking.
Good luck!
PS: I just noticed your final sentence...You ARE one of the family! So naturally he should treat you like one!
2007-02-11 10:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ara57 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him first of course. My name is Justagrandma for a reason, four of them, and there is a Justagranpa too and he would do absolutely any thing for any of those kids to make them happy on their special days. Its not a matter of education, its a matter of love. I know there are some who would make a political statement by staying away, but if he is truly intelligent he must already be aware and accepting of people believing differently than he does, and if he can't overcome his prejudices out of love for you then, you can feel free in acting out of love for your husband and marrying in Church. Just understand that it requires your children to be brought up in that faith.
2007-02-11 08:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, i think you can have anybody you want. I dont know if Im the marriage type, but if I ever was to get married, I might have my brothers or my mom give my away, because my father probably wont be there.
2007-02-11 05:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by mommy.luv.jordyn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although, no one in the whole world can replace both loving parents, I should know better cause I lost both, but a grandparent is the second best thing, IF they have proved to be good grandparents.
Congratulations.
2007-02-11 05:58:05 · answer #11 · answered by lalouch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋