every comment from other women into a flirtation or insult to her. I haven't dated in years. Is there a way to solve this or should I give up on her?
2007-02-10 21:47:42 · 12 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At this age you figure this doesnt occur.
2007-02-10 21:49:09 · update #1
give up. jealousy is a horrible trait.
2007-02-10 21:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like the woman you are dealing with has issues with her own self esteem. It would only get worst as you are now seeing it in every other situation. Serious talking, find out how she finds it an insult, and also conveying to her that you find it disturbing...on your part, please do have a look closely on the ''comments'' and ''insult'', you may see something common to it, and tell you that she is a very insecure person, worried that she may lose you, hence finding every thing said by other women threatening to her relationship iwth you. She seems like she needs a lot of reassuring from you, but then that is if you genuinely do care for her..and want to continue...
Anyway, on the whole, its harmful for you and the relationship, can you think of anything like for example this sort of a behaviour continuing over the years, and you have to face it all the time....I am sure you really dont think its a good idea...Give up, but only after being sure of everything...
good luck
2007-02-10 22:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give up. I dated a 4'11" 200lb midget that had a terrible attitude. Shed come over & get mad when I wouldnt let her browse through my cell phone. Then shed get n my computer & start cussing & yelling obscenities when she saw my porn collection & pics of women I've collected over the years. lastly she went through the caller ID of the home phone & asked who's all these bitches that been calling? Including the call I had got from my mom.
After that she started saying shed stab any woman she saw around me. All that after only dating 1 month. I'd say shed visited my place maybee 10 times & the only way shed go home was for me to send her in a cab. So just save you're self alot of problems.
2007-02-10 21:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three steps:
1.) *Totally* dominate her. In the bedroom and otherwise.
2.) Next time someone flirts with you instead of trying to argue about it, she'll just get sad there is nothing she can do about it.
3.) Then once she gets visibly sad, you can swing in romantically and let her know how much you really care about her.
Thus you establish dominance, then love/trust and then your relationship problems will be solved. Nobody likes it to sound or feel like they're playing games, but you're not really playing games if it's for the greater good of the relationship.
2007-02-10 22:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by lucky guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this can occur at any age. You are dealing with a woman who has low self-esteem or has been cheated on or both (which is a bad mix). The jealousy or lack of trust can dissipate after time if you have a good relationship. It really depends on the woman and the circumstances that made her that way to begin with. You are going to have to go with your gut on this one.
2007-02-10 21:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i love at the same time as my guy is jealous to a particular volume. you'll properly be jealous in a fashion of no longer exhibiting believe on your female friend, and that type of jealousy will harm the relationship. One time my bf took me out to dinner (fancy position) and the waiter grow to be putting the serviette on my lap for me, and my bf were given jealous that variety is okay. If I tell my bf that some type of guy tried to get my decision and he assumes that I flirted with the guy again, that shows he does no longer believe me and that type of jealousy i can not deal with.
2016-12-04 00:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by kobielnik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i consider myself a jealous woman, but w/ good reason. let's just say i know a few dogs LOL. maybe u should look into what UR doin' that would make her feel this way. if ur in the clear, good, but then that leaves the whole "guilty conscience" thingy...
2007-02-10 21:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by DoMeStIc GoDdEsS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make her feel secure to begin with and tell her how much you love her. if that still doesn't change any thing and she continues behaving this weird,then tell her' we need our space.' or instead of breaking up,just take some time out of the relationship .
because this way its just unhealthy and harms her as well.
2007-02-10 21:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think both of you should go for counselling. maybe she has low self esteem or maybe there is something tht you are doing that is wrong.talk to a shrink. love is hard to find.just dont give up on her because she is jelous.
2007-02-10 22:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by atahsina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should seriously brake up with her. Tell her how you feel or tell her "it's not working out." If you say it's not working out, be prepaired to answer some questions she asks!
2007-02-10 21:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋