Over 30 years ago my mother and her brother were molested by their oldest brother when they were young children. We have kept a comfortably distant, practically non-existent relationship from this uncle, and whole side of the family.
Now one of my other uncles has just gotten married. His new wife is a very sweet person. She is always trying to throw parties and get the family to spend time together. I think it hurts her when nobody shows up.
I have a 10 month old baby. There is no way I'm letting my uncle get near my child.
Is it my place to expose my mothers secret to this new woman? This happened 30+ years ago when there were no real laws against this and he never got caught again. I know hes probably still a sicko though. They never change.
What do i do?
2007-02-10 21:41:43 · 4 answers · asked by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her you do't feel comfortable around this particular person for "personal reasons" and leave it at that. She will be able to figure it out on her own, or she'll ask around and find out the buzz on him. Others ought to be aware of this, because if he still has this problem, other children are at risk. Talk to your mom- does she not feel comfortable telling anyone about it? If not, it's not really your place. But, don't put yourself in a positiona where you are uncomfortable or you feel you or you family is unsafe. Just explain like I said and she can read into it. Good luck.
2007-02-10 22:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. She will want to keep her children safe. But only mention your Mother...not the other victim.Even if she doesn't plan to have any children,she needs to know about this so she won't think she's being snubbed.
2007-02-11 06:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this issue with your mom. It is her place to inform his new bride. Any children born to them will be in danger of the same fate your mom suffered. Good luck.
2007-02-11 06:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the uncle who got married. you and your mother both together. Tell him that you dont want to hurt his wifes feelings and how much you value her kindness, but. you dont feel comfortable around your outher uncle. tell him why.
2007-02-11 06:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋