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I was supposed to go out with my boyfriend on Friday night, he told me he was having a couple of drinks after work but would be at my house fairly early so I got all dressed up ready to meet him.

When he didn't show up I texted to ask where he was he told me he was going to stay out drinking all night with his work friends instead.

I'm am usually quite relaxed about such things but I had not been out of the house all week as I had surgery on Monday and I was really looking forward to seeing him.

I was going to let things lie but he called me about midnight (very drunk) and we subsequently had a row. He texted on Saturday to apologise but I haven't replied as I was angry.

He texted again this morning asking if I want to meet up today (no further apology).

I want to see him but I think he needs to realise his behaviour was seriously out of order and he cannot treat me like that. How do I make him understand without looking neurotic and needy?

We have been going out for 2 months

2007-02-10 21:32:42 · 28 answers · asked by Rosie 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

28 answers

Unfortunately, 2 months isnt really long enough for you to be having arguments about that sort of thing. The best thing to do is just agree to see him and tell him exactly how you felt, its a bit early in the relationship to be setting ultimatums, so just leave it at that and if he apologises again, accept it and carry on.

You can only start getting angry about that sort of thing if he does it all the time, i understand you must be upset, but it could of just been a one off. Give him the benefit of the doubt this time.

2007-02-10 21:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 1 0

of course you should forgive him if you two haven't had any real problems in the past. All guys have done this at some point. Girls, too. It's rude, but it happens. You should ignore him for a little bit, prove your point, but don't go letting one night out with the guys destroy your relationship. All relationships would be destroyed if this were considered a Level 7 sin. Plus, he did at least call you and warn you. If he hadn't called you, then you would have a right to be more pissed but still not to the level of "breakup". Sorry about your surgery. He should have been more sensitive to this fact, I agree.

2007-02-11 05:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by zzzzzzzzz27 3 · 1 0

right, i think if you do it too him he wont care anyway guys never worry about these things and he will just meet up with his mates and go out so i think there is no point in doing that !!! but..... my ex used to do this to me lots of times he would always ring and say sorry he wouldn't be making it or he was running late. what i did was say hey don't worry i have made other plan's i didn't ever tell what they where and sometimes i wouldn't really have any. he would then turn up not long after him phoning, i think he knew i wasn't going to wait round for him and he sort of respected that. but after a while it did get very boring waiting for him and when he rang me at 3am to ask if i could go and pick him up off the pavement while drunk i said no !!! we broke up soon afterwards. so i guess im saying if you want to continue with him then try what i said but if he always lets you down get rid off him!!!

2007-02-11 12:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

after two months of dating you do sound needy and very jealous.He text you on Saturday to apologize so he didn't need to further apologize. you chose not to answer him. if he wants to spend time with co workers that should be fine as long as he is not cheating on you. as long as it is every once in a while not every night. maybe he should have taken you with him. in a new relationship you both need to come to an understanding about quality time together and what is expected from the relationship. you seem to be a needy girlfriend in the aspect that you want him with you all of the time. but to your defense you have been only together for 2 months and he should be spending as much time as possible with you.

2007-02-11 05:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1 0

Talk to him and rationally explain why you think his behaviour is out of order. Mention that you will not tolerate it in the future. Set the rules whilst its early in the relationship, as it is harder to do as time goes on. Then see what happens from this point forward. If he continues to disrespect you, then he does not deserve a second warning.

2007-02-11 05:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Michael T 5 · 1 0

by you putting him in his place will not make you look needy, it will show that you are not the one to put up with his crap, i can understand you being angry but i think you should rise above it and kill him with kindness yet still put him in his place. that will really give him something to think about. don't do what he expects you to do...do the opposite and be the bigger person though i already think he feels small over the way he did you....that's why he keeps calling just talk it over and tell him what you will and will not put up with simple as that, but later on down the line if he continues this unacceptable behaviour well then that's on him isn't?

2007-02-11 05:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by tanya m 4 · 1 0

Give him one more chance, arrange to meet him with your friends and his, that way if he doesnt show up you still can have a night out but in th morning, if he didnt show up tell him you need someone who you can rely on and have good times with rather than staying at home waiting for nothing.

Goodluck hun and if he doesnt turn up... there are plenty that would xoxoxoxo

2007-02-11 05:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by fi_beans90 2 · 0 0

It depends. If your boyfriend is a good guy, forgive him and try to start from the first page again. But if he's bad, well... Dump him. The Real pain is that you both will feel a elusive bad feeling for few days or longer. But the real decision is in your hands. and whatever you choose... hope that your answer is the best.

2007-02-11 05:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by Enigmatic A 5 · 1 0

Of course you should forgive him. Boys will be boys sometimes. Just make sure you make him understand how hurt you were and that it will never be tolerated for again. The good thing is now you have that for leverage on something you want in the future.

2007-02-11 05:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

you should just explain that you have not been out all week and you were looking forward to spending some quality time out with him and tell him he's out of order cause you wanted to see him. but all he was interested in is getting drunk with his mates instead of meeting his girlfriend like he should of done.just tell him how you feel i hope this helped

2007-02-11 05:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by glowing flair 3 · 1 0

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