I've started hanging out with my ex again and I'm starting to have all these feelings for him again. I have known him for five years and he's a really good guy and I like him a lot. I like him for him, as a person, I respect him a lot. Problem is, he tells me he loves me, but I'm finding out that he says it to all his girls that are friends. Also, I have his password to his e-mail (yeah, I know it's wrong.) But I've looked in his inbox and saw an e-mail he wrote this girl that he told me he swore he didn't like... well... In the e-mail he told her he loved her and was working over time to buy a house just for her and him. Then he goes and tells me he wants to hook up with me again when I turn 18 and he wants to get serious with me. So, I don't know if I should just stay friends with him or confront him about it? Or just leave it alone and look somewhere else for another boyfriend? Please help me. :)
-Christina
2007-02-10 21:18:13 · 14 answers · asked by Christina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been with 2 other guys since he and I have been over also. (It's been 3 years since we haven't been together) .I feel good and respected when I'm with my ex, he's a sweet guy. Also, I was told from his brother that him as well as my ex's friends, I'm the girl that they like the most out of all my ex's girls that are friends only because I'm quiet and I respect them. (if that makes sense!!!).
2007-02-10 21:29:02 · update #1
Also whenever I go over to see him at his brothers house, there is this one girl, she gives me the meanest looks ever, kind of like she's jealous of me but at the same time it's like a look of disgust and a look like "you stay away from him, he's mine"... i don't know if she's territorial or what... but it pisses me off. i like him a lot and i have a lot of respect for him and i'd love if we got together but at the same time.... i don't want him to cheat on me or mess around on me... so i think it'd probably be best if we just stayed friends?
2007-02-11 08:54:16 · update #2
Yeah, he's playing you. If he wanted to be with you and be faithful, he would be doing just that.
The best thing you can do is remain casual friends with him but push all thoughts of romance out of your head. You may only think you have feelings for him right now because you're hanging out with him a lot, but don't let your emotions deceive you; think of what made you break up in the first place....
You seem like a nice girl, and I promise you somewhere out there (and probably closer than you think) is a good guy who honestly wants a monogomous relationship with a good woman and a family. Those are the guys you need to find, this other guy sounds like a wannabe player.
2007-02-10 21:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Speedybaby101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 23:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christina,
You saw his inbox. He's writing love letters to someone else. Whether or not he means these letters doesn't matter, he's trying to get into your pants and this other girl's pants simultaneously -- I promise you this means he isn't interested in getting serious with EITHER of you! Moreover, he has lied to you about it. This is the most cut-and-dry case-closed string-a-long story i've heard. Show some respect for yourself. Get rid of this guy. There are plenty better guys out there than this.
2007-02-10 21:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by lucky guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation before, with my ex-girlfriend. The bottom line is, if he tells you one thing and does another when it comes to love and your feelings, he does not love you and you would be better off dating other people yourself. If you are friends, he will probably talk about how pathetic you are to women or pretend that he is a real ladies' man. Remember, you will find Mr. Right one day. Don't give up and remember the best things come to those who wait.
2007-02-10 21:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need another boyfriend.
It is very hard, I know cause I had a girl I liked once, that I did it with, thinking we will be together for a long time maybe. I had known her for years, worked with her, she always treated me so nice, bubbly personality, but
I don't know what went wrong, I think she decided to have other guys.
Keep looking, like me, you will find someone. Never give up.
2007-02-10 21:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easy said i know but i recon you should look for another boyfriend someone who will only have an intrest in you instead of other girls aswell.i know you were wrong for looking through is mail but in a way its agood thing you did because now you know that he's after another girl and it must be really on you as you have feelings for him. its hard but you will find a descent guy out there anyways good luck on what you choose to do
2007-02-10 21:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by glowing flair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave Him Alone He Seems Like Trouble You Can Do Better
2007-02-10 21:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur EX is just acting sweet and positive around you (which i hate it when guys do dat) to get ur attention in order to get u back. Besides, wats the poiint hainging around with a player plus a jerkass and a ****? Find ur self another guy....dats all.
2007-02-10 21:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad you know what you know and count your blessings that you are not his girl. Take the high road and stay there.
2007-02-10 21:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people like you, are why this society never changes. i actually feel sorry for you. i really do. no dissrespect but you are missing brain cells. get a check-up soon.
2007-02-10 21:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋