My oldest son is 18 so sometimes he stays here and sometimes with his dad. wherever he feels like staying. well I work overnights and he came home to spend time with me today and I fell asleep. when I woke up he was gone. do you think i hurt his feelings? what can i do to spend more time with him? i work strange hours so i sleep strange hours. plus hes at the age where he has his own life. any suggestions, ild like to maintain a close relationship even though hes an adult.
2007-02-10 20:52:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I doubt you hurt his feelings, he was probably bored since you went to sleep. You could always call him up and say sorry I fell asleep, you know my work schedule is so crazy that I fall asleep with not warning some times, I hope I didn't hurt you feelings! I am sure he understands and it was not a big deal to him. If you have a close relationship and he understands about your work schedule I am sure he understands.
2007-02-10 20:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I bet your son completely understands that his mother is tired. Make sure you tell him how bad you feel and you were just exhausted. I have had the same situation with my son, but he is the best thing in this world and I am amazed at how forgiving and understanding he is.
Since your son is an adult, I am sure he realizes the pressures
of dealing with this life. Don't be so hard on yourself, you didn't do anything wrong. You slept. It's not like you went out and partied or anything.
You actually sound like a wonderful mother and I am sure your son knows that more than you do.
2007-02-11 04:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by bentley b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, he is an adult and is more than capable of understanding. Make time to do things together that you both enjoy and make a connection with him. That will give him that undeniable sense that you love him.
What about chatting online and when you get the chance you leave one another messages online and maybe share a few moments talking about stuff. That way your different schedules won’t mean you hardly talk at all.
2007-02-11 04:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez that is a tough one. No I'm sure he understood that you were tired. But maybe next time you can order a pizza and share it while having some conversation about how's he's doing? What is going on with his life. Won't take long, maybe a 1/2 hour and he'll be ready to move on. Oh, and give him a hug, you both need it. HUGS!
2007-02-11 06:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is 18 and has ever worked he can understand being tired, just talk with him he will respect you for it, say oh I am so sorry I fell asleep when you were here, I did not mean to it really meant a lot to me for you to stop by, my work has just been very crazy, I think that would mean a lot to him to know that it bothered you, but call him like right away. Take care and good luck...........
2007-02-11 04:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
next time you see him...appologize. you probably didn't hurt his feelings and I am sure he understands your schedule....but just being thoughtful and appologizing to the people you love when you think there MIGHT be a chance you offended them is always a good way to stay close.
just a "hey, sorry I fell asleep. I really love having you here but my schedule is crazy. I hope I didn't make you think otherwise"....maybe then you could ask him to stop by on a specific day.
2007-02-11 04:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it possibly hurt his feelings. And he may be an adult, but 18 is still very young. He probably wants to talk to his mom and spend time with her..... Sorry you fell asleep. Let's hope he's understanding and that next time you'll be awake. n
2007-02-11 04:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt you hurt his feelings. He probably just left so that you could sleep.
Call him up and say "Hey, sorry I fell asleep the other night. I'd really like to get a chance to talk. Do you have time [insert date and time when you won't fall asleep] to get together and talk?"
Do yourself a favor - don't kick yourself. Things will be fine.
2007-02-11 04:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt you hurt his feelings. he probably knew you were tired, so he left so you could get some rest- and he took off to do something else. I wouldn't worry about that- he's pretty much grown up now. As for spending more time with him- ask him how he feels about it and what he wants to do.
2007-02-11 04:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him about your hours and the need to sleep but tell him you do want to spend time with him and you guys can work out a time that is best for both of you. I am sure he will undestand
2007-02-11 04:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Lin 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋