AHH, i'm so confused. This guy, who I used to hang out with, NEVER calls. I ask him if he wants to hang out, but he seems always busy, like he has no time. I try to IM him everyday, he talks but if I don't IM, he doesn't really IM me. I feel like I have to force a conversation, but when I see him in real life, I know that he has the same feelings as me- I can tell that he likes me bcause he payes more attention to me than any one else I am hanging out with. I think about him a lot, but I'm just starting to feel like I'm disappointing myself. I mean, he's attractive, but maybe when he's with his other girl friends, he flirts with them.. I don't know if I should give up; it's hard to not think about him because I was close with him a year ago.
2007-02-10 20:39:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, to just look at it from a practical point of view hon, do you like this or not?..................NOT RIGHT! Either tell him, or distance yourself. Sorry.
2007-02-10 20:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think someone has asked him to play hard to get. OR He's not interested. Why not give him an ultimatum of sorts? My way or Highway?
Would ignoring him for aweek, while flirting with his friends work? Lol
Seriously, if he has feelings , and he's not expressing himself... Is he otherwise fine? I mean, when you are hanging out 2gether, just how much does he say, besides Hmm. Yes, kay, That's right, Really? And how many times does he initiate the conversation, share some funny story?
2007-02-11 04:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he felt the same way as you do, then wouldn't he be calling and iming like he used to? The fact that he's not means that he's not that into you anymore. He still likes you and because you were close once, he feels more comfortable talking with you when you're in a group.
Do yourself a big favor and just stop. Stop calling him, stop IMing him. Be friendly when you see him, but you need to stop or you'll just keep suffering for no reason.
In a few months you'll meet someone new. Give yourself a chance!
2007-02-11 04:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me explain this way. The guy most likely does like you. Just not in the way you want him to. I think he is trying not to hurt your feelings. I think that is why he is being a little stand offish of you. Don't try to push yourself on him. It will only turn him off. Stop sending I-M to him. Let him come to you. If he doesn't then just be friends with him and let it be at that. Never ask a guy if he wants to hang out. It comes off pushy to a lot of guys. If a guy is really interested in being with you he will ask you to hang out with him. If a guy doesn't have enough confidence in himself to pursue you then he isn't the right one. When the right 1 comes along he will take 1 look at you and know that he just has to speak to you.
2007-02-11 20:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might really care for you, or he might have another interest. I don't know. I can't really say, because I'm not in his shoes.
Here's a question. Does he treat you differently compared to his other female friends? If so, then he really likes you.
Perhaps you want this relationship to go at mach 10 when he's just playing it buy ear and trying to let it happen naturally? Or maybe he's nervous and wants to take it slowly?
2007-02-11 04:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always believe in the saying: You'll never miss the something until its gone.. Make him miss you for once. Anyway, if you really feel like he's attracted to you, he'll find a way/ he'll make a way to contact you. (He might be playing 'hardball')
If he still didn't make any move, well just think how pretty/ special you are and that he'll miss something for that.
See? From Yahoo answers, somebody's already interested? Always boost your selfconfidence.
2007-02-11 04:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by machooletz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try explaining him on all these.. if he really loves u, he will have a slight change and with in couple of days or months every thing will be alright..... need to put right things on right time properly...
u had been close only b4 a year, why cant u try this more... this may also develop intimacy on u........
good luck........
2007-02-11 04:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by Racingred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try n understand
mayb he is really busy at times
he does love u
u know that
jst give him some tym
n trust him
dont think he'll b cheatin on ya
cuz that can create problems
good luck
2007-02-11 04:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Random Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should treat this stituation like buying a house. Always be willing to walk away, it makes you powerful.
2007-02-11 04:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by Billy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't IM him anymore for a while let him wonder way you stoped. Maybe that might help. Orr you can be my friend.
2007-02-11 04:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋