i am 28 fed up with the long term abuse of my mum, i have moved out, i have confronted her, but its 'all my fault' according to her, she still verbally put me down everytime i call her, to stop seeing her, should i write a letter, or call her, or just disappear?
2007-02-10 20:24:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Write her a letter. Writing is a powerful form of healing. You can vent, and get everything off of your chest. Use present tense "This is the way I feel about things right now........." Sounds like communication needs to happen one way or another, and that you remain in control. She has hurt you. You can't even have an amicable relationship. If the relationship is truly that dysfunctional, it sounds like you need to at least give it some distance. Surround yourself with positive people-people who are forward thinking, people who are movers and shakers. Give yourself positve affirmations that you are a good person. Although you can't change the other person, you can do something about your own life. I was there once. I didn't talk to either of my parents for three months. Hang in there!
2007-02-11 06:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm 31 and I've experienced just the same with my mother. I decided not to make conversations with her just to mantain a minimal contact. I also decided that I will never be like her. This is a great comfort for me.
2007-02-10 21:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by Wintermute 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your causing yourself more heart ache distance yourself from her. Stop calling her. This is not your fault your mother has her own issues and she has no right to blame u for her stuff ups.
2007-02-10 21:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a really difficult one to explain. For most of us, we never really want to let go of our parents because they are a link to our image of ourselves.. (Negative or positive).. However, if you really cannot take it anymore, you deserve to be happy and you deserve to stay away from elements that cause you pain and grief in your life..
2007-02-10 20:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by aken 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend a slow phase out over a relitively long period of time. Start calling and seing her less and less.
2007-02-10 20:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by H M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How does anyone truthfully know how you are behaving towards your mum or how she is truthfully treating you?
2007-02-10 21:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋