My family is seriously religious, like church on Sundays and Wednesdays and Bible class on Tuesdays, I did all of that growing up. I never believed in any of it and when I moved out I stopped going all together. My parents recently found out I don't believe in God and they now refuse to speak to me. I've never been close to my parents and don't actually care if I talk to them again out not, but they have also cut me off from my younger brother, who I was good friends with. Any advice on how to convince them to let me see him.
2007-02-10 20:20:08 · 9 answers · asked by Soccer<3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is the reason why I almost didn't ask this question, don't answer if your just going to tell me to "find God". That doesn't help my decision. I didn't believe as a kid and I don't now. The idea that there is an invisible man who watches everything you do and has a list of things you can't do never made any sense to me. Its not realistic. My parent made my life hell growing up and I just want to see my little brother. I have tried to get my parents to understand why I feel the way I do but they just don't get it. I respect there views, but they refuse to respect mine.
2007-02-10 20:36:19 · update #1
I think this is terrible! I think that if your parents are that religious they should understand the concept of forgiveness and acceptance. Have you tried to approach them with not making your little brother suffer because they are mad at you? That's just wrong. Make sure that somehow your little brother has a way to contact you himself like your cell phone or something. One day I hope your parents will realize their very sad mistake. Take care and I wish you and your little brother the best!
2007-02-10 22:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how your parents "recently found out" about your beliefs (or lack of), but once that can of worms got opened, you probably knew how it was going to go. The only thing you can say is that you are sorry, you wish it were different, but you don't see any way to change your beliefs right now, maybe ask them to continue praying for you, etc. Ask them if you made a hurtful mistake by letting them know the truth.
Other than that, you really have no recourse. You are neither the first nor the last to suffer for their beliefs. You will have to wait until your brother comes of age and see if he wants to resume your relationship.
It's not unusual to react negatively to a heavily religious upbringing. Their religious intolerance is a giant turnoff. But don't throw out the baby with the bathwater. There are lots of way to have a spiritual life. I don't see any reason that you could not sincerely ask the hypothetical-to-you God to show you a sign. There is nothing that you stand to lose!
2007-02-11 04:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to see what it is that made you not believe in God and let your family know, did you feel like they were hypocrites etc. they need to know, that is a big thing to be raised around religion and then totally turn your back on it. You may need to write your brother a letter, but to me there is something way deeper to your story. I am a Christian and it would hurt me if my children said they did not believe in God. Sorry but that is the main thing I got out of your story.
2007-02-11 04:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Belief is on of the basic human rights.. You can believe what you believe, but you can't force someone to believe in your belief. I think your parents should appriciate.. Bout what they did to you, it's just because they think it's their responsibilities to make you a good person ( in the way they believe )
2007-02-11 06:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Pianoholic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure there is something in the Bible about loving one another and forgiveness. just find something to convince them that cutting you out of their life is wrong. plus i would consider believing in God at least... even if your not a fan of their religion.
2007-02-11 04:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sleepyguy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell them you believe in God.
Lie.
ADDITIONAL....
Smith my friend: just tell them you believe in him now. lie. It's the only way other than looking for God, which clearly you don't want to and honestly? I don't blame you because of what your parents put you thru as a child.
2007-02-11 04:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Yvonne Mystic 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
they sound like they are brainwashed to me. how could anyone outcast their own child because of beleifs. they could simply say that they dont approve and leave it at that.
2007-02-11 04:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek God -- You will find Him
2007-02-11 04:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by karen i 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Ask God and he will help you.
2007-02-11 04:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋