Let me tell you a little story... I've been married for almost 10 years and cheating have never crossed my mind. I've met this guy at work and of course he's living with his pregnant girlfriend, he doesn't know that I know. He was very persistant with me and I let myself get caught up in to so much confusion. To make the story short, he kissed me. And this is where it all began. The way he kisses, touching and holding me and the way he stares at me, I feel that it's more than like and lust. He tells me that I'm beautiful and that he wants me. But I haven't given him my whole heart, because I'm afraid I'd hurt him and I'd hurt myself and I'm married, and he knows this. This affair has been going on for couple of months without sex. He's not telling me what he really feels inside and I'm very confuse. And the weird part about this is that he talks longer to the girls I work with, ever since he got too close to me. What does he want from me? Is it just sex?
2007-02-10 18:48:37 · 31 answers · asked by mqlovely 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here is my wisdom:
You are asking the questions to the wrong person. For instance, "What does he want from me?" and "Is it just sex?" You should be asking yourself "what can he do for me?" That may be shallow, but as you already know, he has a pregnant girlfriend. You can also see that he isn't faithful to her, so that shows you his characteristic. Also, if you have been married for 10 years, why ruin a good thing over a fling? If it's not broke, don't try to replace it. Yes, I said replace it. Why replace your husband for a old, out-of-date part. It isn't even an upgrade. You choosing the other guy doesn't benefit you in any possible way.
You might like the way he kisses and holds you, but that is just because it's something new, different, and exciting. Just talking to your husband about how you feel and try to spice up the love life. Try new things with him instead of a new person. Go back to those high school days when public displays of affection occurred over few minutes. You just need to find that feeling again. Ask your husband because he knows the directions.
2007-02-10 18:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by flare_78942 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This guy knows that you are married. and is living with a girl that is going to have a baby. His? I can tell you as a man This guy wants that cookie. and after he has had a good taste then he will be wanting some other cookie. Please ask yourself,what you would do if your husband did this to you? I will tell you if you no longer love your husband then leave him but being a two timer can get you divorced, label yourself a a whore, or even killed. You need to stand up to this asswhole and tell him to leave you alone that you have thought about things and have decided that you don't want anything to do with him not even a friendship. The bottom line is that he is short term and a few weeks or months from now he will move on to whoever is the hotest looking person in tha area and you will be just yesterdays garbage. Please have a little more respect for yourself and for your husband.
everyone wants to feel like they are really hot and beautiful, and I am sure that you are all that, if you weren't this guy would not have opened his mouth, but ,........HE ISN'T!!! To him you are just a conquest and he has every intention of completing the sex act.
Just one more thought, what would you do if you got pregnent from this guy? Before I forget it another thought comes to mind. Let us suppose that you left your husband for this guy, and moved in with him. How long would it be before he was out trying to get some other sweet thing in bed with him? Baby doll be true to your husband, but more importantly be true to yourself
2007-02-10 19:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by ffperki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for a man, and very normal for a woman! For some reason this is like something that happens all the time with men, I went through this with my husband. He fooled around mostly when I was pregnant & he made up lies to date other women. This guy you are talking about he's a player, so be careful, he might have some feeling for you, but dont take him serious. You are married & might end up loosing both ways, your marriage & that guy is not really worth your time, he talks to your co-workers. NOPE! If you have to ask then you know he is trying to get some game w/you, honestly he is lying about his girl, and what makes you think he is serious, & that he wont do this to you. Your a smart girl! Do what is right and STOP! You will end up getting hurt, eather way! Im sure your beautiful & he makes you feel like a Queen, but once you give it up to him you both might develop some feelings, but one of you is going to have to call it quits! Might be hard if you get into it to deep! You never know guys like this bring home STD's. I have been lucky & gave women my husband went out w/lots of advice. They would fall in love and believe everything he would tell them. Same things this guy is telling you. It's not anyones fault w/stuff like this happens, after all we are human...Take care, good luck, be safe rather than sorry!
2007-02-10 19:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by HOPE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being played a fool. This guy is NOT even worth your time. This guy is a player, liar and a cheater. This guy is "very persistent" because most men love the thrill of the chase. His persistence will increase the longer you withhold sex from him as he will promise you the moon and stars and every thing else your heart could desire UNTIL you can no longer resist his charms and give yourself to him. As soon as you've given yourself, you can expect to be more confused than you are now as well as anger, regret, betrayal, etc. The hurt you WILL feel will be far beyond what you can imagine now.
Additionally, you've stated you met this guy at work. Have you taken into consideration the implications an affair with this guy or any guy whom is a co-worker might have on your job? Ask yourself how you might feel working with this guy after you've given yourself to him.
I STRONGLY suggest you END your intimate relations with this guy IMMEDIATELY.
2007-02-10 21:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well seeing how his wife is pregnant I think that maybe he is seeing his wife as maybe unattractive now or thinks maybe after she won't have the same figure afterwads. Or maybe she is not giving him the sex he wants bc she is pregnant. Either way I think he is only in for the sex. I would not screwup anything in your marriage bc of this guy (although you would be to blame too) You would only end up sad and alone when your hubby divorces you and this other guy doesn't want you anymore because he got what he wanted. He sounds like the kinda guy who earns a womens trust just to get in the sack w/ you. He is testing how far he can go with you and since you have not put out yet he has moved on to his newest target.
2007-02-10 18:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 00:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be nasty but you are a fool. Who in their right mind would ask a question like this? Should I have an affair and ruin four peoples lives for the sake of some sex? Is what you should be asking. Of course not! No one in their right mind is going to tell you to lie to your husband and have sex with a man who has a pregnant girlfriend. Most people have morals or a conscience which stops them.
2007-02-10 19:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by SR13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, GET RID OF THIS LOOSER NOW.......of course he is using you. Men cannot be trusted, i am not saying that all men are the same some men are decent but this one sounds like a real SLIME BALL his girlfriend is pregnant so he is using you for other"activities" until his girlfriend has the baby. Then he will come up with every excuse in the book why he cant see you. Dont throw your marriage away on a bit of excitement stolen for a few hours a week. ITS NOT WORTH IT>>>Keep away from him. If its not you it will be some other woman he wangles his SLIMY way to. Its always nice to hear someone thinks your beautiful, and then things can get carried away in the moment, but leave it there in the moment. He will most probably be with another girl as well as you, so STOP it now.....while you can.
2007-02-10 21:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well our inner selves create the outter world. So you have to ask yourself...what is it that you are feeling inside that is being refelcted back to you by teh outside world? Do you not love your husband..is he not satisfying you anymore? Are you seeking more romance? Spend some time withyourself to look within...and when you find out the answer then you will absolutly know what this man really wants from you.
2007-02-10 18:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Keith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want anything from you....
...Get out before you get your heart broken!
Your a married women, get your marriage in order if you are having problems and speak to your husband.
This other guy has a pregnant girlfriend, you shouldn't even be playing these silly games with him! What goes around comes around.... just remember that!
2007-02-10 18:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋