My boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 years and people are still telling me that its wrong. i need opinions. We have a beautiful baby girl and im pregnant again. They said it dosnt matter i should still get out.
Kirstin
2007-02-10 18:47:25 · 16 answers · asked by Kirstin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh sh!t
2007-02-10 18:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Hi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone else tell you what you should be doing with your life. You have to live it, they don't.
Me and my ex were both of different races...i'm as white as they get, and he was African American. People stared at us ALL THE TIME. My dad didn't like the idea that he was black. I didn't care. We got along great and he loved my kids.
So you do what YOU want to do, not what everyone else is telling you to do. It isn't wrong at all. It's all a matter of opinion.
2007-02-10 18:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get married??? I do not agree with creating interracial BABIES - dating I have no problem with. I have several mixed race friends who HATED their parents for causing them so much turmoil with life. This is a very very selfish world - people tend to do whatever they want no matter what anyone says, and no matter who gets hurt in the process. Mixing races seems to be the "thing" to do - not for me but if it WORKS for you and you are HAPPY, do whatever.
2007-02-10 18:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a phrase.
Feed Me, FK me, Finance Me, Or Move Out Of My Way!
These mouthy haters have no control over your life! And don't give them any!!!
If he loves you and treats you well and has respect for you, that is ALL you could ask.
You've been through the HARD part already. Don't let anyone complicate things now!
2007-02-10 19:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what? you date who you want to. i do think you should get married. i'm sure the kids are beautiful! my step-sister dated a guy for years, and had 2.5 kids with him before getting married (3rd was on the way). she waited because he wasn't a good guy, but he's changed a lot. i think he's a good dad now. if you are committed to raising the babies in a family, at least make it legal. aside from that, tell the others to kiss your a s s.
2007-02-10 18:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a 41 year old mother---i know that race is "important" to our society but let me tell you one thing.... i have been in abusive relationships, i have been in hurtful relationships...
i have one son Let me tell you now...if he met a girl that was not of his race, was happy and the relationship was solid..i would be so happy....you cannot tell or predict who you will fall in love with...white black, hispanic, whatever--as long as the girl made my son happy and it was a healthy relationship i would honor it. If she was an honest person and truly made him happy i would be all for it...
bottom line--if she was white and treated by son like crap--no telling what i would do--of another race and he was content- then the lord sent her...
however if children are involved it is another story--those children did not "ask" to be born and we should treat them like gold.....take them into your haeart no matter how you feel about the relationship--
any one else feel this way???
god bless us all
2007-02-10 18:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Aero-Smith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anybody telling you that it's wrong to date outside of your race is a racist fool and shouldn't be given much attention. You have a lovely baby, and another one on the way. Would you deny them their father or their mother, just because you're of different racial backgrounds? Anybody who thinks that you should is a JERK!
My daughter is half white and half Japanese. She is beautiful, brilliant, and beloved. Her father and I did split up, but not because of race, just because we grew apart.
Race doesn't matter. What matters is love. If you love him, if he loves you, and if you both love your babies, that is what counts.
2007-02-10 18:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am the product of an interracial couple, and i feel that you should follow your heart and your mind. do not let other people tell you what you are doing is wrong. as long as he treats you well, there is nothing wrong. most people do that because they are ignorant and unhappy themselves and they like making others feel just like they do. so just ignore the haters. if they truly cared about you like they claim they do they would support you instead of tear you down.
2007-02-10 18:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are in a happy, healthy, loving relationship then you have nothing to worry about except finding new friends like the guy above me said, that is so messed up. As long as you both are happy theres nothing wrong it whatsoever.
2007-02-10 18:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"interracial" dating is a non-issue in my circles of friends so it is wierd to me that so many people are still hung up on such superficial differences...
if it is a good relationship and you want to be in it then tell them all to mind their own business...
2007-02-10 18:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it even a question??? If you r in love and have children don't listen to what other people have to say
2007-02-10 18:50:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋