I need ur help!?

Question

I am feeling so low about myself, I cant feel like talking to people, I feel I am so lonely!
I need ur suggestion wht I should do to improve my confidence and how to live a peaceful life!
Plz this is an earnest request! I really need ur help!
Love u all!

Answer 1

sometimes in life we all need a little help.
I suggest you talk to a nurse or doctor about this low self esteem
take up self defense classes. that's gonna boost your self esteem.

Listen to good happy music!
take a dance class
join a support group
go help the elderly!
volunteer at programs in your community.
visit sick people in the cancer or burn unit!

when we help others, we help ourselves.
If we make a difference in one person's life, we matter in this world!!!!

YOU MATTER!!

take an art class with seniors!! they will be happy to see you and you can just be yourself.

join karatee!!!
mediation groups, or tapes

be kind to yourself

Use positive sayings and post them all over your mirror.
Talk to yourself in the mirror, talk to yourself like you are your own best friend.
be your own best friend!!
Louise Hay has a good tape-- 101 positive thoughts.
go to hayhouse.com
all her tapes are good
Carolyn Myss has good tapes or CD's
all help you with positive thoughts and self esteem

Answer 2

When you say that you would like to "live a peaceful life" I am wondering if you are not letting us know that you are involved in an abusive situation? This might not be the case, but if it is I want you to know that the abuser's chief technique is to isolate you so that he can emotionally (and perhaps physically) get you to the place where you begin to think like he does, adopt his reality. All focus is on him. His needs are the only ones that count. You are not allowed to have friends and you are not allowed to tell your family about what is going on. After a while you stop trying to connect with people at all-- what's the use? If you tell a doctor you are depressed, you will be prescribed anti-depressants. Things never really get better. If this is your situation, I want you to think seriously about reaching out to someone who can help you.... a crisis line, a shelter, a women's counseling agency, a women's ministry at your church. This will be the first step to improving your self confidence.

If you are not in an abusive relationship, then it might be useful to learn the cutting-edge energy therapy called Emotional Freedom Technique. You can learn it easily with the DVDs and by practicing the technique daily you will be a much more confident and happy person within a very short time. Go here: http://www.emofree.com/AffiliateWiz/aw.aspx?B=1&A=529&Task=Click&TargetURL=https%3a%2f%2fwww.emofree.com%2fStore%2fstore.aspx

God bless!

Answer 3

Sometimes i also feel the same feeling.Are you born between SEP23-OCT23?If it is yes then this might help.Just try to establish good contact with others.Aways be in a relaxed mood.
Never ever feel low about your self (it affected me very much and i struggled for nearly ten to ten&half months mentally as i was able to say to the parents),as it may result in strange
consequences which may disturb your mind peace very much and it make you jealous of others.I slowly recovered for the problem by
1.speaking to freind a lot
2.try to forget my bad qualities
3.some time i just use sit in a place where nobody no's what i am doing and meditate thinking of nothing but some good point about myself.
4.sometime if feel very emotional would listen to woeful balled in total scilence.

I hope this would help you.
This my E-mail ID : [e-mail] .If you want any tips tell me what your are feeling and i will send you some ideas form my experience.

Answer 4

1. This-like all feelings- will go with time
2. Divert your attention to other people's problems and help
them.This will benefit you more than the helped people.
3. Do aerobics -this will elevate your endorphin level
4. See a lively movie and read a happy book
5. Meditate and you will realize there is no such low feeling and
you will experience peace which is basis of all happiness

Do NOT try hard, take it easy!

Answer 5

STAY BUSY.
it is much easier to feel negative than it is positive, so why not challenge yourself with that each time you go negative in thought.
Tell yourself that you are not weak and not taking the easy choice but the hard choice and be tough.
It will slowly build up your inner strengths and confidence.
You sound genuine and like a good person, so challenge your thoughts to take the high road/

Answer 6

Well you took the first step already-you identified the prob and asked for help. Congrats! There are a lot of things to suggest but it's hard without knowing more about you. Age? Kids? Interests? Working/going to school? Significant other? Pets? Lots o'
possibilities
Without knowing these things all I can say is Smile, you're alive

Answer 7

since u r capable of loving ppl..(referring to the last line of ur question).. outer to ur ambiance.. U have the capability of moving around with the ppl..So think u r a amicable person.. Simple SMILE can catch many a heart .. so keep on Smilig..The other way u can eradicate the feeling of loneliness is to Travel...( I just don't mean long journey.. Go for a walk in evening or in the dawn).. u'll get partners to share urself.. it will show u the beautiful side of life.. (It's my own experience)

Answer 8

definitely u have come across to a unsolved question of your life which have make u to feel low
i had also face this problem in past & some sentence help me to overcome this problem----
listen fast & dj music
spent most of your time with your family & freiends
do some creative work which make you happy
see only comedy films but avoid too much & hooror movies as it make u depress
exercise daily & drive bicycle insteed of any vechicle
read good stories
most important
BE POSITIVE
ENJOY EACH & EVERY MOMENT OF LIFE

Answer 9

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 10

Well, I felt like that sometimes before but just talk to ur parents or friends on the phone and tell them what they doing and just start a talking with the 1 u feel comfortable with.