Im sweet to girls that i like, and it seems that i get walked on by them so i think im going to just be distant and not put faith in one girl cuz all they seem to bring on is hurt, whos with me? i mean ive gotten no where with being a nice guy, all i get is hurt. so i think im just goin to shut off emotion and play the field, what do you guys think? heartless or a good idea so i dont get attached to girls?
2007-02-10 18:13:15 · 12 answers · asked by dark_days7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
STAY TRUE TO WHO YOU ARE - do NOT just give up because you happen to pick girls who can't appreciate who you are. "Players" are not happy either - you just need to be patient and try a DIFFERENT type of girl - you will be rewarded, trust me.
2007-02-10 18:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just sounds like you have been meeting the wrong girls. It may be a better idea to keep looking until you find the one that can appreciate you for all that you are. Personally, I love nice guys. By that I mean a gentleman, not a pushover.
It wouldn't hurt to examine your behavior and make sure you do not fall into the pushover catagory. And it might bea good idea to examine what type of girls you are attracted to. Perhaps they are the type that don't appreciate a nice guy. That said, I really think you will be happier just being who you are. If you become distant, there will be a part of you that remains unfulfilled. And when you do find the right girl, you will be so used to being distant, you may not be able to give to her fully. We all get hurt and go through a lot to find the right people. Nice guys always complain about how many girls don't appreciate it, but there are many that do.
2007-02-10 18:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by JustTalking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be the girls you are going after. Always be yourself and the right girl will come along. Women want to marry nice guys. Maybe you are just young and hanging around the wrong people. I dated "bad boys" for a long time and finally got with a nice guy. He wasnt initially what I wanted bc I wasnt use to it. 4 years later we are still together. Nice guys dont finish last when they find the right girl. NEVER change who you are but try being a little more agressive maybe. Not sure if you are just young, but most mean guys are just jealous.
2016-05-25 09:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same problem before. I don't think shutting off emotion is truly going to help the situation. I've found that some women have dealt with the wrong kind of men and when they finally meet a nice guy they don't know how to take it. I think you should keep being yourself and hopefully you will come across a woman who will appreciate your kindness.
2007-02-10 18:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by D.J. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be heartless if u do that.If u play the field then u will be no different from the girls u are talking about.Just be what u are and believe me u will get ur reward soon and u are worth a nice reward as u are a nice guy.
2007-02-10 18:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really love nice guys. Most girls I know like aggressive guys or guys who are really cocky or confident. It really depends on the girl's personality as well. I think perhaps girls who are more mellow and down to earth tend to like nice guys. I like nice guys because it means a lot to me when a guy actually listens to me and takes interest in what I have to say. I have also realized that cice guys tend to be more sensitive, which i personally find very attractive. Nice guys can be protective, and still be in tune with the world and people's emotions. It's certainly a catch to find nice guys!!
2007-02-10 18:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by Samara * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE nice guys. However, I'm not attracted to every nice guy. There has to be a physical attraction and an interests attraction. All I can say is that you're probably lacking in some aspect - confidence, common interests, or hygiene.
2007-02-10 18:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by MR. Tumnus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is tt u haven find e right ger who appreciate u for wad u've done...
my advice to u is to cont being e nice n sweet guy u've been... however, make sure tt they are worth ur sweetness... if u're juz gonna shut off emotions and play the field, u may end up hurtin someone who truely love u for who u are... when tt happens, u are so gonna reali regret it...
2007-02-10 18:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by AngelQ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love nice guys! but not to a point where he cant stand up for himself, nice guys still have to be able to take charge! if you are like this, then you've been hangin out with the wrong girls, come meet me! lol
2007-02-10 18:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by dull pencil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh — no. The nice guys are the ones who hold your hand, and the bad boys are the ones that fcuk you. Now which one sounds more appealing to YOU?
2007-02-11 04:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋