My aunt lives w/ my dad & I, but they dont date or anything she is supposed 2 be the "care taker" while my dad is offshore. The thing is my aunt was supposed 2 have left her boyfriend of 14yrs(off & on) but she still keeps in contact w/ him & they constantly fight which makes her depressed & she drinks all the time 2 deal w/ it. Her children dont want her drinkin anymore but she is old enough 2 do wat she wants. But I am the one havin 2 live w/ her and always be stuck in the middle of everything. I cant take it anymore. I always think about movin to my moms, who lives out of state, but i dont want 2 leave my dad b/c I am all he really has left.
2007-02-10 17:57:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My aunt lives w/ my dad & I, but they dont date or anything she is supposed 2 be the "care taker" while my dad is offshore. The thing is my aunt was supposed 2 have left her boyfriend of 14yrs(off & on) but she still keeps in contact w/ him & they constantly fight which makes her depressed & she drinks all the time 2 deal w/ it. Her children dont want her drinkin anymore but she is old enough 2 do wat she wants. But I am the one havin 2 live w/ her and always be stuck in the middle of everything. I cant take it anymore. I always think about movin to my moms, who lives out of state, but i dont want 2 leave my dad b/c I am all he really has left. I am old enough 2 make my own decisions i just dont want 2 hurt anyone, and thats my biggest fear.
2007-02-10 18:11:42 · update #1
I am old enough 2 make my own decisions i just dont want 2 hurt anyone, and thats my biggest fear.
2007-02-10 18:12:04 · update #2
You need to have a heart to heart with your dad about it. It is his house so it is up to him whether or not to ask her to leave. You didn't say how old you are. Are you old enough to take care of the house yourself, 18+? If you aren't at least 18 then I would move to my mom's. If you are 18 and your dad doesn't want to ask her to leave consider getting your own play nearby. Best of luck. :)
2007-02-10 18:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bean62960 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are that unhappy,then see if your Mom has any better arrangements.Your peace of mind does matter.I would think your Dad would understand,but he may not want you to leave,regardless.If you have a choice,then do what is the most sensible for your own mental health.Aunt does not seem very stable right now.Maybe everyone needs to be informed,and then they can all decide.Hope it works out for you,take care.Your probably going to need to be real sure about Mom,before you uproot and everything.I really think Dad would understand that you are just not happy with Aunt and that you are not deserting..him...
2007-02-10 18:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're not any further being egocentric in any respect. those grown united statesmust understand more beneficial advantageous. Your dad leaves you in the care of an aunt because he's continually away, so what large difference does it make in case you stay including your mom? also, you need to examine including your dad and tell him the reality. educate him a replica of your question the following if its a lot less complicated and clearer. you need to not ought to stay in that type of difficulty for yet another day. also, bypass to a therapist/counselor who can advice you and help you cope on an ongoing foundation. you want advice, heavily.
2016-12-04 00:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you feel so torn apart. Try to talk to your aunt about how her drinking is hurting you. Tell her that if she does not stop you will go live with your mom. Think of your future and hope that things will get better. Let your dad know what is going on.
2007-02-10 18:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Aunty needs help. Do you love her? If you do you need to do something to help her give up the drink. Find a activity which will take your Aunt out of the house and mingling with other people and she might pick up. You never know.
2007-02-10 18:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by karena k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a new reality series. If your old enough, you get dads permission and tell them to hit the road. Keep a journal, get receipts and monitor whats going on, update your dad on a regular basis.
Its your dads and your house, don't let them win.
2007-02-10 18:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by rob_hallock 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a serious talk with your dad and explain how hard it is for you with the situation that your aunt is putting you in.
2007-02-10 18:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can, move out.. If that's not an option, then you need to talk to your Dad.. He will understand. You need to be happy and in an environment that is free from this. Your dad will appreciate your honesty.
2007-02-10 18:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by pussnboots333 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋