Ok... There is this girl and we were introduced over the phone. I have only talked to her on the phone and internet. She is SO awesome and we already (which may sound stupid) talk EVERY night and tell eachother we love each other, anyhow she is flying up here to meet me now, then we'll see where it takes us. Anyhow I have a spare bedroom, but it doesn't have a bed, so I have to go get one anyhow, but I feel really stupid, cause I don't want to come off too strong or like I wanted her up here to sleep with her, but I don't want to offend her by offering her the spare bedroom either, so what am I to do?
2007-02-10 17:51:18 · 35 answers · asked by jimhm3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You offer her your cleaned up bedroom and you sleep on the couch.
Peace!
2007-02-10 17:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you talk together so well why can't you ask her what she would prefer? You say you love each other but you cant ask her why not?Question how can you love each other when you haven't even met? People today don't know what love really is.
I have a friend who is nursing a very broken heart from this same set up he was madly in love over the net and phone she filled his head with such hope when D day came she never showed up so don't go out and spend money on extra food or spare beds unless you really want one as she may not show up go easy good luck
2007-02-10 17:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this sounds like a disaster already! Why the freaking heck, would you invite someone to stay over and you don't even provide a proper spare bedroom setup? You must really not care about her, second you should have told her if she wanted to share a bedroom/bed or have her own bedroom....she should be honest and tell you...Just have a spare bedroom setup/w a bed, unless she is accustomed to sleeping on floors and treat her like she is speacial guess. I would suggest you take things slow! Especailly sense this is your first time meeting!
2007-02-10 17:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by Daughter of a Coma Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyhow, I don't know how old you are. I think it is appropriate to offer her the spare bedroom, with a bed, or if you don't get one, clean up your room, and you take the couch. Better to err on the side of decency. If things happen, they will anyway.
2007-02-10 17:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the new bed for the spare bedroom. That way she has some options. Offering a choice is not offensive. It shows that you are willing to see what she wants to do, rather than insisting that she meets whatever expectations you have.
2007-02-10 17:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer that said clean up your room and give it to her and you sleep on the couch ROCKED! But you could also buy a Aerobed and some cozy inexpensive sheets and blankets for your spare room, so she can have some privacy without making her uncomfortable or pressured in any way!You sound like a cool guy for even asking our opinions! You'll win her respect and maybe something else, Who Knows?!?! Have a GREAT TIME!!
2007-02-10 18:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would absolutely, in no way, be offensive for you to offer her a spare room. She is probably concerned about the sleeping arrangements, as well. If you don't want to offend her, tell her exactly that. Show her the room, tell her what you had in mind, and let her choose.
Chances are, things will unfold naturally and you won't have to worry about it. But, when in doubt, being upfront about your feelings and concerns is the best choice.
2007-02-10 17:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by JustTalking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I question that you tell each other you 'love each other'. That's not healthy after a few phone conversations. Second, she's not too stable if she is willing to get on a plane and go stay with a guy she's never met. As far as coming off to strong, why not just tell her you are thrilled to meet her but not prepared for her to stay with you. None of this sounds like a good idea ... Hope you will rethink it .... Good luck.
2007-02-10 17:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, say hey I don't know how you feel, but I have a spare room, or if you would feel better I can get you a hotel room, let her know you are thinking about her completely and that does mean offering the hotel. Stay a gentleman, it will get you further in the long run.
2007-02-10 17:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a couch, you need to be ready to sleep on your couch and let her have your bedroom.
The last thing you want to do is imply that there's only one place that both of you are going to sleep. If you've never met her before, it wouldn't be right, no matter what you guys have been talking about previously.
You guys will probably end up in the same bed anyway.
Good luck.
2007-02-10 17:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool and see where she wants to go. Put out some blankets next to the couch or spare bedroom.
2007-02-10 17:55:21 · answer #11 · answered by C J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋