I´ve got big troubles to find girls and be able to love them, it´s quite difficult to me to get a girl to love deeply and sincerely, I feel frustrated, i need help in that respect.
2007-02-10 17:47:19 · 8 answers · asked by Jean Michel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first thing you have to do is know exactly what you want. Are you trying to just have a good time with a girl? Are you looking for a long term or short term relationship? Wife?
Either way, getting a girl to fall in love with you is something that is very easy to do once you have mastered yourself. The reason that a girl falls for a guy in the first place is because all human beings are instinctual, just like animals. If you know how to tap into that, then that is half the battle. The other half is adapting yourself to the traits that men who are successful with women have. I'm not talking about changing yourself, but rather changing some of your behaviors. There are sooo many things that you need to do to get to where i'm talking about, but the first step is realizing that you are comfortable in your own skin, and that you don't need anyone else. It is all about being self confident. When you go to talk to a woman for the first time, you have to be 100% confident in yourself, because if you're not you don't likely have a chance. Rule of thumb is do something different than all the other guys are doing, because in fact most of them are wrong. Don't buy her a drink, and kiss her ***, like all of the other losers are doing. She isn't going to want a guy who is doing what all the other guys are doing, especially really attractive women who are used to getting what they want. I've seen this at clubs a thousand times. They want someone who will walk up and say, "Hey, I know I'm probably going to lose interest in you in about five minutes, but I thought I would let you buy me a drink anyway."
And bam, that does work. Because I have done it numerous times. It's all about having that kind of attitude man. Confidence plus unpredictability. Borderline prick is the way to go, as long as you practice to where you can do It to where you sound like you may be joking, but also may not be joking. It's this whole mindset, and not being a wuss that gets the girls, and makes them feel that gut level attraction for you. I am just so sick of reading all of this relationship advice, probably from people who have been in maybe 6 or 7 relationships in their whole lives, and it is just wrong. Now everything that I am saying works best on really attractive women, or women who are used to getting hit on alot. On average women, you can turn down the prick, and just turn up the confidence. There is a really fine line here though my friend, so be careful.
2007-02-10 18:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by mattkarkoska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to depend on the age group you are looking at, because 20 year old "girls" have different wants and needs than 30-40 year old "women" and anyone that says I am wrong about that, is still too young to know any better!
Most people in general want honesty, trust, faithfullness, respect, generosity, kindness, a person to listen to them, a person that shares the same or similar goals, a person who isn't selfish and self centered, a person that is interesting to talk to.
What we women can't stand are couch potatoes who know the remote and satellite guide better than their gf or wife, who put their friends first and their wife second, who lie, who cheat, who are hypocritical and self centered and who have one standard for themselves and another for their wife.
2007-02-10 18:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by CHERI S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you ask yourself if you really want this girl. is she your type or not. Then, ask her out so that you can get to know each other. Ask her questons that you think it will lead to a good conversation. Don't ask questions that you think are boring because the girl may think that a person like you is stupid.
2007-02-10 18:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by kyna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be your self.
Girls are attracted to guys that are sure of them selves, and that are genuine, honest, sincere, respectful, caaring, etc.
You must love yourself before others can love you.
2007-02-10 17:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother he said he always acts him self respect women alot and thinks that sometimes thats all they really need. even though he is acussed of being gay he isn't and he says hes naot but he ahs a lot of girls hang out with him why cause he respect them and they know that.
2007-02-10 17:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by girly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are complicated creatures but if your a good provider, keep fit, be helpful around the house, great lover, excellent father, friend, child, then you would be perfect and we would all love you and only you for ever and always !
2007-02-10 17:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by 21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need skills. May I suggest nunchucks or a bowstaff?
2007-02-10 17:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by Thegustaffa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love comes naturally, it comes when you least expect it!!! just be patient and im sure love will be on its way! so stop searching and look at whats right in front of you!!!trust me
2007-02-10 17:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by ilc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋