Should religion play a big part in who you love?

Question

So me and my gf broke up because she didn't want to tell her parents I was pentecostal,and she is a fundamental baptist so there are differences. Such as they don't believe in speaking in tongues but pentecostals do. And so she says that she wants to go out with someone thats is the same religion as her but then she says that she wants to stay with me because she loves me so much. And we might get back together, and I also told her that I would convert its just I'm young and my parents are providing me the roof over my head and I just can't convert.So what should we do???

Answer 1

well if you and another person have commonality issues on ANY level, including religious, it could be a crack in the foundation of your relationship, and you likely have a better fit elsewhere

Answer 2

Tough question. My wife is Pentecostal. We have different beliefs in some areas of the Bible, but we still love each other. It is my belief that Christianity should not be about denominations. I am neither Pentecostal, Baptist, or any other denomination; I'm only Christian. When the first church was created, there was no denomination, so I try to understand her thoughts and explain mine the best that I can. We compromise sometimes and agree to disagree other times. My answer to you would be for you to both agree to believe the Bible only. People are often well-intentioned but always imperfect, so don't believe for other people; believe for yourself. Do the research and figure out the truth, then choose a church that you feel is accurate.

Answer 3

First of all, you should love all. Secondly, if you two are in love, you are in love. Maybe you were meant to be. Maybe God put you together so that certain things would happen. You are willing to convert? Due to your willingness to convert, maybe God has put you on the path to do just that. Maybe God is calling you in this way. You know, your parents can not make your choice about God for you. Please understand that. It is a personal decission. You also shouldn't change your beliefs just for someone else, it should be from your own heart and belief.

Having said that, my opinion, and I am not Baptist, but I was raised Baptist. I attend a non-denominational church and simply am a Christian who loves God. Back to my opinion, I think maybe this is a way to become enlightened to God and his truth. I personally do not believe the doctrines of the Pentacostal Belief. Its not because of the speaking in tongues, because although it is not common, it is possible and real. I believe the Baptist Church has good teachings. If your parents love God, they will understand that it is a personal choice, not theirs for you. My son, who is 21, has not, to my knowledge, made a choice yet that he can or wants to really commit to. I pray for him all the time, but I love him just the same, as he is my son and I know it must be his own personal choice. I have faith that God will lead him in the right direction.

Good luck, and I hope you find your way.

Answer 4

First of all you need to read the Bible to see what it says about speaking in tongues. But, also remember that some of the pentecostal have some beliefs as the baptist do. As, long as we believe that there is a GOD and know there is only 2 choices in life and that is Either HEAVEN OR HELLand the choice is yours!!!

Answer 5

There's no easy way to say this..... but..... I know you wont understand until you get older.... but you're really not in love.


You're young.

Enjoy life as a teenager.

Go to dances (although you're Pentecostal and probably don't dance).

Go out with your friends.

Study.

Learn.

Go to college.

Figure out what you're doing in life.

Then worry about who you love, why, and how you will justify it to your families.

Fact is... even if you get over this VERY DIFFICULT difference in faith, something else later on will inevitably break you up. (probably something even stupider than the fight over religion).

I was led to my conversion to Mormonism due to my "love" for some Mormon girl.

True, I converted technically under my own recognizance, but I would have never thought about leaving my Catholic faith if it weren't for her.

We ended up breaking up over her pet cat! yeah I know right? stupid!

You're too young to make such an important decision over some girl. I don't say that meaning that you are too "stupid young", I mean you just have so much going for you, and you have no clue as to how your life will be in a few mere years.


Enjoy being a young man.

Don't get too serious with any girl. Focus on yourself.

Best of Luck dude.

Answer 6

well I don't think it should in an idealized universe, but in reality it can mess things up. I mean, both me and my bf are atheist which is good for us since we would have very much bad troubles if we aren't. I feel that Christians who get nit picky on the actual denomination is just silly. But like you said, there are a few differences, but yes, you are young. Look around. Plus, yes, you can convert and she needs to chill out.

Answer 7

From personal experience, giving up your church and religious doctrine for someone, isn't the reason to do it. You may end up unhappy in their church, finding fault in it and not finding as much comfort as you found in the church in which you were raised. You may end up resenting her instead. Better if you find someone raised in your own church.

Or, find a nondenominational church later where each of your beliefs will be accepted. There are churches like this out there.

But just remember. Your church is the place you go to when you are under stress and having great difficulties in life. If you don't find comfort in this new church, it will be a huge support system taken away from you.

Answer 8

No. Religion is the great separator of people. Just look in the world and observe how many people are in conflict because the religions can't agree on God. Don't give yourself reason to run into problems.

Answer 9

She is right when if she doesn't want to be with you because of your religion. Either convert to hers, or break up. God says that "ye should not be unequally yoked with a believer and a non-believer" But if you both believe that Jesus Christ is the Messiah and died for your sins I see nothing wrong with your two divisions of Christianity.

Answer 10

*"we've Christians. and they do no longer continually consider one yet another on particular tenets of religion"* yet they are assume to! it is the overall theory. that is why they argue among themselves because they are ALL assume to adhere to each and each and every note in that indoctrination bible to the letter. in the adventure that they don't then they don't look fairly (in the experience of the note), a authentic *Christian*. it is the area that you disregarded. And almost each and each and every of the persons in this u . s . *imagine* it to be a *"Christian u . s ."*, it is the reason they base each and everything including politics exceptionally on *Christianity*. Islam and the Mormon faith, Scientology and different *diverse* religions except Christianity are frequently frowned upon through the 1000's in this u . s . nonetheless. even besides the undeniable fact that there are the type of marvelous number of diverse religions the following immediately living aspect through aspect. that is nonetheless a very bias u . s . concerning religion and different issues. i do not see that ever replacing universal.

Answer 11

I am not preaching but read "And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." 1 Co 13:13

Think once before you say goodbye to one who loves you. You may feel about it all your life. Faith and Hope have great place in Love.

Don't put the one who loves you down for simple things that can be relearned.