2006 was a roller coaster ride for me and now I find myself in a rut. I completed my Master's degree and buried my beloved grandmother within 2 weeks after working really hard to take care of her and finish my studies while working a full time job and handling issues with my Mom who has schizophrenia. I'm looking for a job that fits more with my abilities since my current one is not challenging and doesn't pay well. And I'm in a long distance "situation" with someone because I haven't met anyone locally. I don't feel depressed, just unmotivated. I enjoy all the things I used to, but I don't put myself out there and take chances like I used to because I fear that with all my new responsibilities, I might make a regrettable mistake. How do I get the courage to go back to being carefree, and bringing to fruition, all the things I worked so hard for.
2007-02-10 17:32:39 · 3 answers · asked by Charming Taurus 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi Caramel!!!
First, sorry about your grandma; at least she is resting now!!
You did what you needed to do, so be comptent about that!!!
About your mom's condition, there is good medication to control and help, also keeping the appointments, will keep her in check!!! You also are doing the best you can, and there is only so much you can do!!!
Congratulations, on your graduation. Having so much to handle at one time and achieving graduation, while working too!!!
About the long distance relationship, I believe will keep you in a save emotional state, but to tell you the truth is NOT the best one!!!
Everybody knows long distance relationships, are very hard to maintain. You definitely need someone next to you, even if is NOT romanticaly involve, but someone who you can trust, and go out with, just to settle all your emotions in place first.
About the job, keep the one you have until now, and shop around. Don't rush, at least you have a job, and can have a little luxury, NOT to accept, the first opportunity, that will come along!!!
It is very understanding the fact that you fell unmotivated. You have gone through a lot in a very short amount of time!!! And all these changes has being very dramatic,experiences.
Just give yourself a break from all, while keeping your responsabilities. You are a very strong person. But there is a time that one needs to start thinking and doing for oneself!!!
In between this and that, one can easily be lost in the dark, and that is exactly what is happening to you right now!!!
Sit back, relax, and think!!! Take a deep breath, and the common sense will tell you, that even though is hard to accept, but you are NOT DEAD YET!!! And you are NOT SICK!!!
There is a time when one needs to life ones life, to at least enjoy something before one can't enjoy NO MORE!!!
You are a professional, smart, full of life person, that loves your family; but you need to love yourself too!!!
GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE
A.Z.
2007-02-10 18:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may try seeing a counselor until you "get out of the rut." Join a social group. Working and getting your master's is a big stressor, without the medical issues you've had to face. If you're worried about your "situation", get out of it or just cool it off awhile. Dealing with schizophrenia is a whole other ball of wax. Grief in itself....You've had a really rough ride. There's nothing wrong with going to a counselor to talk about your loss, your accomplishments, to get some encouragement. Gather up some close friends for a night out. Go even if you don't want to. Sometimes it takes a few "reminders" to recall how to destress.
2007-02-10 17:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by capeal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... you could try something new from time to time go places you have never been, try lifestlyes you haven't tried, go out and meet new people. i mean to that myself in the near future
2007-02-10 17:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by lawrence n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋