A lot of women (not all because some women don't play games) seem to play hard to get once they know a guy likes them or is even interested in them.
My question is, are you REALLY supposed to pursue them?? The reason I ask is because I know that traditional convention says that males court and females chose BUT traditional convention also states to be nice to girls when we all (well most of us anyways) know that that doesn't work and that they don't go for nice guys.
So when a girl starts playing hard to get, what approach is more likely to work:
A)
Pursuing her persistently
B)
"I see through your game and don't have time for it, either drop it or goodbye"
2007-02-10 17:26:15 · 10 answers · asked by Jamal J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually, a lot of girls DO go for nice guys. And some girls don't mean to play hard to get; for some that's just the reaction, or the way they always act. If you really like a girl, and she's playing hard to get, still go for it for a while. But if she keeps up the games, find someone new. Cuz either she's not interested, or she's just TOO hard to get...
2007-02-10 17:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by mrs. vader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pursue her a bit, but if she seems to be overdoing it, you're not sure she's playing games or really doesn't have a true interest... tell her you like her and that you are interested in a relationship where both participate. That you as the man like to be the one initiating the contact if that's her style, but you love not a game but a real honest person who says what she feels. Tell her also you are open to her calling you on her own initiative.
Unfortunately when someone is playing a passive game it is harder to differentiate whether their interest is true or not, but very likely you will sense it. Girls who play games are also lovable.
When faced with this situation ask your heart to know what to do.
2007-02-10 18:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish nobody would play games but the sad fact is that we all do. There are girls out there that want a man to persue them and be "traditional" and then there are some girls that want to be more conventional and be coy.
The same thing goes for guys. They want a good girl but naughty things!
LOL
Ask yourself what kind of man you are.
Are you a traditional man, or a conventional man?
Be yourself, don't change your ideas or beliefs trying to get the girl!
And as a good girl, I don't like it when men choose A).
I choose B) ! Don't play games.
2007-02-10 17:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
B) games are fo play grounds and schoo is out.
tricks is fo kids, n fo hooka's
why waste ya time. grown peeps dont play games or hard to get. now that dont mean they should be easy n put out on the first , second or even third date. but if there is a connection then do something to let the otha person know.
2007-02-10 17:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when girls play hard to get. I completely ignore them.
Not worth wasting my time with that BS.
It just shows you how much BS you'll have to go through when you actually start dating them.
My advice...only deal with girls that are straightforward and let you know how they feel.
2007-02-10 17:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm.. From my experience from hard to get females, is that girls are really looking for a 'father figure in their life' I know it sounds stupid but its the truth. They want a man to really control them. So if shes the type that calls you stupid or smacks you in the face, you hit the ***** back and you act like nothing happen. then say 'you gonna hit me back or what?' then if the ***** is like ooo sweety i didn't mean to hit you like that IM SORRY. or if shes like **** YOU IM LEAVING then you have to be like 'sit down you ain't going NO..WHERE..' and if you see them stay the **** down...than now you know what she wants.. You have to be controlling... Its with all females. black white and especially latinas... and mostly whites too.. if shes black you HAVE TO be a bad ***... its the truth.. try it... and you cant go back to your sensitve ways.. be as bad as u can be.. give it a shot.... P.s if shes the type that REALLY doesn't take no ****... can't help you on that.. protect your record kiddo..
2007-02-10 17:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by blue_is_troo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah really? I thought guys were the ones that play games on the girls. Hmm... Good question.
2007-02-10 17:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
B.
If she is interested she'll come around. And if she doesn't she wasn't worth your time to begin with.
2007-02-10 17:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by JNM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unknowingly we show what we expect from the others, so reply her game with tit for tat. If she is really interested in you, she would be stumped.
2007-02-10 17:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by dak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm. i 'm not sure usually we play them, but in a way you know that we really want more.
2007-02-10 17:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by **Taira** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋