So me and my ex have been broken up for about 4 months now. I was doing great. I hardly thought of him anymore. Then a couple of weeks ago I found out he has a new g/f. Now he is all I can think about. I wish I could be with him. Is it really a crush or is it just him looking like a shiney new penny now? I just can't help, but wish I could run into him. He lives a couple of hours away though so that wouldn't be possible unless I went psycho and drove there to purposely run into him. It really feels like a crush. I know our relationship ended for its reasons and he's obviously moved on. I was almost over him and then bam. I'm back at square one. This is a bxtch. I'm actually considering sending him a Valentine's card. It would be so wrong since he has a g/f. I need to stop. Has anyone else gone through this? What was the outcome? Did you get over it? I know everyone says it'll take time. Well yeah. 4 months seems like plenty of time.
2007-02-10 17:11:25 · 23 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're jealous. It's a natural reaction. Avoid it....
4 months isn't enough time. It takes twice as long to get over a relationship as the relationship itself lasted.
2007-02-10 17:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have, I had a boyfriend for two years who ended up breaking my heart. That what 3 years ago... I have since moved on however I found out he is in another relationship and as soon as I found that out all the memories came back and I got that empty feeling in my gut. Honestly I believe it has to do with a feeling that the person is yours and when you are not the one who they desire any longer it makes you question why.
I don't believe you are having a crush but are simply wanting what you can't have and knowing he may be over you. (I hope that makes sense) I can also guarantee you that if you were to unexpectedly reunite with your ex, none of the issues that existed before would disappear and you would realize that you only desired him again because he was with somebody else.
Just remember that an ex is an ex for a reason. Don't go back for seconds if the first time didn't fill you up!
2007-02-11 01:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nickie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thought of me having a crush on my ex is revolting to me. My ex-husband is disgusting to me. He is the worst kind of human being. If I had a crush on him, I would hope that someone would commit me to an institution for the completely stupid. I did have a crush on an ex-boyfriend though, who I met after my marriage ended. I wasn't ready for a new relationship so soon after my marriage died, and we broke up. He moved on very quickly, but I did not. I thought I loved him. I didn't. I just loved what he represented to me. He was so DIFFERENT than my ex, and after 19+ years in a horrible marriage, I didn't know that guys could be different than my ex. Anyway, time DID remove my feelings, and I did move on - so much so that I met someone new, when I was READY to, and we are engaged. Still, while I was pining away for my ex-boyfriend, I eventually learned that I was only doing so because I never had complete closure with the breakup. Our breakup ended with unresolved issues. Perhaps you are seeking closure for something as well. Please don't try to run into your ex. Go out and meet someone new. Live your life. Have fun. There's a big world out there waiting for you. Be a part of it without trying to rekindle something with someone who has already moved on. Good luck!
2007-02-11 01:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah ! been there. its a classic case of wanting what you cant have. the deal is,now that he's got a new gf and appears hot..u just want him soooooo bad. the solution to this is that you got to see the practical side of this. right now its just your vision being fed with these sights of hm with a girl and him looking neat. when you actually even if ever start dating him all over again ,then he wont be so attractive to you.when the usual routine of dating will start then the fascination vanishes. so chill and your getting all these feelings only because your not in touch with him . when you know better you'll feel different.
and don't try calling him and all of that coz his heart is on another girl and you will just be a by stander to that. and you would not want to be ''just friends' with him either. coz you were his gf before and to be dropped to a position of merely a friend will hurt. so just live and let live !! :) take it easy.
2007-02-11 01:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two broke up but back then you knew you could have him. Now that he's taken, you want what you can't have. This happens alot with people, he's appealing because you had him and now you officially can't anymore. You just try and move on, dont send him a card, and find someone new to give you heart to on Valentines Day.
2007-02-11 01:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this happened to me like a month ago... don send the card.. bcuz we were nor friends anymore and i send him a sry card n he nver wrote bak.. now i feel so stupid... i started feeling that i wanted him wit me so badly after i found out he was happy with out me and he moved on... now i want him back.. but i really dont like him.. i just think that i liked that he loved me and now seein that he doesnt anymore gets me so mad...so u will get over when u go out wit another guy trust me.... i think u just feel like u want him because somebody else has him...
2007-02-11 01:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by drzangel140 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy hell, I know what you mean! I had this same problem once. I never got him back because I found someone new and Im still with him, but man was it hard to see him (the other guy) kissin' her. I never wanna go back to those days. I hope you can pull through okay, good luck, if I can get thru it, you probably can too.
2007-02-11 01:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by ~jenn~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really think its a crush. Maybe you just dont like the fact he is with someone other than you. and it hurts u to see that and You dont want him to have another girl.. thats ok. I dont know, if you really feel You like him still then try to patch things up. But I would NEVER go back with an EX
2007-02-11 01:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just a bit jelous that what you use to have together, he has with somone else now. If he didn't cross your mind until you heard about the new gf, then it's not about him. It's about you wanting to size up his new gf. leave him alone and move on, if he's not calling or coming to see you, then i doubt he wants the same fro you. it's normal to be a little jelous, but don't let it get the best of you..let it go
2007-02-11 01:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by Angeleyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, yeah av gone thru the same thing. Actually, nowadays i don fil him or hav a crush on him. I used to think about him all the tym, after we broke up. Wheneva i c him i feel lyk am gona melt to the ground. Does this say i still lyk him? I really dont know. But, trust me, ul get ova him, it takes tym n patience. U no it doesnt hurt to get his no. and say hi. me n my ex r still frends. So i wish u the best of luk, n get ova him, n get anatha one! Mia
2007-02-11 01:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋