Is he controlling?

Question

I've been with him for 2 years now. im a 14 yr old freshman in highschool,and he's a 16 yr old sophomore.He didn't used to be like this.2 weeks ago my 21 yr old cousin came to visit for a day,and i hadn't seen her in 4 yrs,but she's like my sister because we're so close, so i told him that that night she was here,i was going to spend time with her and not get online to talk to him or call him,and he goes "well fine i didn't want to talk to you anyways see if i care.go do whatever i guess" in this really nasty yelling voice,and he thought i was being mean because i wouldn't talk to him for one whole night.He comes over to my house every night,literally,and so at school i like spending time with my friends,and he thinks i should be with him at all times that we can during school,even though i see him everynight, and barely see my friends.He don'twant me to wear makeup, and he tells me what time to go to bed. He gets mean when i can't think of something to talk about with him.

If i one time don't do something he tells me, he will get pissy and start a fight over it. He won't let me buy anymore hoodies or shirts because he thinks i have too many, which isn't really true. If i go somewhere with my friends, i have to call him on my cell while im with them. And he won't let me hang out with a certain friend because he thinks she is bisexual, and that i'll do stuff with her. I'm not sure if she is or not, but i really don't care. He acts like my parent.. and he's not. I'm only 14!

I've told him before, and he got mad. He said he's not controlling and that he just wants me to talk to him and listen to him sometimes.. which i do both! I dont get him, he says i will never understand and puts me on a guilt trip. He says he will change.. and it hasn't at all happened yet.

Ok this is alot of details im adding.. lol. Anyways.. i've told him that we need a break and he says he will never ever take a break because he wants to be with me all the time.. sometimes i don't even want to see him because i see him so much and get in so many fights with him.. and i tell him that and he once again.. gets angry and used the whole "fine see if i care" thing.

Answer 1

GET OUT NOW! He does not own you, but he obviously thinks he does. Count your lucky stars you find this out about him now instead of after you have kids or are married to him! He is dangerous.

Answer 2

Is he controlling? I think you already know that he is. Do your self a big favor and run away from him as fast as you can. Don't let him make you feel obligated to stay with him. You are way too young to be going through all this. You should be out enjoying yourself with your friends instead of worrying about what your boyfriend may be getting mad about. To answer your question, yes he is way to controlling and you will never never never change him. Run!

Answer 3

in many ways his anger is really his way of loving you...but i think its too much especially since he comes over your place and you get to see him all the time...it would make more sense if you two lived very far away from each other that way when you two met it would be much more understandable to spend every second together and get jealous if you or he was with friends..but when you get to be with him all the time it takes away the specialty and uniqueness of being together for a moment...i think if this continues to go on between you two it will lessen the love between you two..talk to him about how you two should spend a little less time with each other that way it will increase your love and strengthen your relationship...how if you two are always with each other than it may lead to unwanted problems

Answer 4

Hell yeah he is controlling. Let me rephrase that; he wants to be controlling. He wants you to kiss his a**. Don't do it! Once you start giving into him, he is going to only get worst. Start checking him, put him in his place! He will act like he don't care but when you start paying him no attention, he will see that he can't control you again and if he really like you, he will make things better.

Answer 5

hellll yea hes being controlling and if yall really love each other tell him what hes doing and try to get him to stop if u really dont like it and ur getting fed up i say move on and find some who will treat u better (there is more fish in the sea)

good luck on what ever u do!!! ;)

Answer 6

He sounds pretty controlling to me. Its very unfortunate for him because he's learning this behavior at such a young age. You are a very young girl and you shouldn't have to experience this type of behavior with your boyfriend. You need to get out of this situation and suggest to him to get some help.

Answer 7

well it seem his way in love with you and really dont wanna lose you,maybe his afraid to lose you,but the way he actz maybe he needs a little help,if he really cares about you then he will do it,your too young to stop having fun and do things,he has to understand that if he really do care.but it could be worst,but have him see a coucolar or somthing befor it does get worst

Answer 8

Girl you are in a tangle!
Dump him! That is serious stuff. Trust me I have her that if you dont take action they can physically hurt you! Like hit you. And if then, you do something they hurt you more. Dump him now before he gets agressive. He is too controllive

Answer 9

sweetheart you are way too young to be involved with someone so insecure as him and i'm telling you now GET RID OF HIM there is no excuse for this behavior and one day HE WILL KILL YOU! NO EXCEPTION HE WILL KILL YOU ONE DAY IF YOU DON'T DO EXACTLY WHAT HE SAYS!!!! get out before you start to believe that this is how love is supposed to be because ITS NOT LOVE IF ITS NOT MAKING YOU HAPPY! IF YOU HAVE TO QUESTION IT, ITS NOT!

Answer 10

Well he has a major crush on you he only likes you looks not for who you are you have a boyfriend for the wrong reason.