why why why , isnt it anoying when you tell your child to do or not do something that they come up with why ?

Question

kids of all ages always seem to ask you why when u tell them to do something , how many of you parents out there tell them the infamouse because im your parent or even because i told you to , do any of you actualy explaine why you tell them to do something or not to do something

Answer 1

I personally like to explain the whys of things to my kids. Reson is so they can learn and understand WHY they can or can not do something. If i have already explained to them the Why and they still ask why then i say cause i said so and cause they already know why. good luck with u and God Bless
yes i do agree.... it gets annoying sometimes, lol isnt motherhood great! lol

Answer 2

When it is not something that needs to be obeyed immidiately (say, "hey, get out of traffic"), then I usually tell my daughter the reason. But she does understand that when mommy says to do something, you do it now. Not unreasonable, like "go get me a beer", because alot of parents abuse the obedience rule that way. My daughter does what she is told, and then sometimes asks why later. I have made it clear to het that when I tell her to do something, you do it without procrastinating until you feel like it or ignoring. I also don't do the counting stuff either, because then the kid knows they have control. I have explained to my child that if she is playing in the yard, and I see a car coming around the corner and tell her to move, she had better do it because you don't have time to count and beg a kid to obey. Sometimes it is the difference betwwen life and death, and the kid should know to be obedient NOW,and a parent should know to never abuse that rule by making thier children do unreasonable things.

Answer 3

Nope not annoying~ Its our job as the adult to teach children. Hopefully with patience. Its not a childs fault that we are busy with other things, or angry at something. They just happen to be the targets for our lack of patience.
If you want a child to quit asking "why" the start your request with the R E A S O N you are asking or telling them something.
Example:
" Today we are going to the grocery store" ~ WHY?~ "I need to buy food and I want you to go with me,. lets go have an adventure okay?" ~okay~
Also give your child transition time between activities. Don't just rip a kid from playing and say "hurry up, we are going to the store" instead, a 1/2 hour before you need to leave, mention the outing and ask the child to start getting ready in a few minutes.
Lighten UP as a mom, because it goes by so quickly~

Answer 4

Children by nature are curious. They ask why so they can understand and learn. Yes, it is annoying when they constantly ask why, but you did it as a child and now it is your child(ren)'s turn. Please do not deny them a valid answer. Whenever my son asked why, I told him in terms that he could understand at his age level. If I did not know the answer, I made an effort to go find an answer with him. This encouraged my son to seek answers. To this day, he does not accept 'because' for an answer, he wants to know WHY because. And I encourage ANYONE, regardless of age, to ask WHY if they want to know something. Yes, I did my share of saying 'because I am the mom', but when he asked why on that, I told him because I was in this world longer than him and I would not expect him to do something dangerous or unhealthy, and it was my job to raise him to the best of my ability. Also, when he got older, when he asked why or why not, I let him know the consequences of not doing what he was told and let him make the decision. He almost always did what he was told, and he also understood WHY.

Answer 5

You have reached the stage I have been dealing with for about 6 months, with my 4 year old.

Although we tend to use the "cause I told you so" answer, I have found that they really DO want to know why we tell them to do or not to do something. When we try to explain to them the reason, the child sees it as a gesture of good faith, so to say. If you tell them not to do something and they do it again, discipline is in order, so that they realize that we mean what we say.

Answer 6

Don't give them the chance to ask you why, just tell them.
Kid: Can I ride my bike on the street?
Parent: No, because not everyone who drives down the street is looking for a kid riding their bike.
I think the answer, because I am the parent and I said so is more out of frustration or amusement.Doesn't really work.

Answer 7

They ask why for two reason either they already know the answer want know what think or their a little selfish want to know the other side. This could be a learning process for them.

Also I tell my girls the reason but make them explain to me their reason or question. Then i remind them that i am their mother and you must be obedient to me. Or be punished by me or God! And no spanking or beating the **** out of them.

Answer 8

I always explain. It shouldn't be annoying that the child wants to know why something is good or why it's bad. It's the teaching moment parents should pray for. It's when they stop asking the why's that one needs to worry.

Answer 9

Why is very important. It allows the kid to see exactly why you are saying it. Children are curious. Obviously a 5 year old has no idea bout child molesters or most of the dangers of the world.

Answer 10

I always give the reason, because I am raising future adults who must function. I am not raising future prisoners who will always be being told what to do. I don't get annoyed - I love it. I'm proud of what we're doing here.

When they were little and my requests were more likely to be related to safety, the instruction was they had to do what i said first, and then they could ask why.