I was pregnant in 2006 and i had my new daughter in dec. but in nov. i sent my 2 year old to live with my mother in chicago. she just returned yesterday and she's a little cold, she knows me and her father but she still prefers her grandma how can i make her love me like before?
2007-02-10 16:50:24 · 8 answers · asked by luv6mama 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She is really too young to genuinely understand love. She probably wants your mother because she has been the one who has comforted her throughout her first years and her grandmother is essentially all she remembers for now. I would recommend you dedicate time to your daughter. Take her to the park, play with her at home, give her lots of hugs and kisses, tell her you love her, and EVERYDAY, set time aside for just the two of you. Even if it is just 30 minutes. You need to make your own memories with her again, and show her that you are there for her and soon, she will love you again!
2007-02-10 17:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by katiesmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DEAR
IT WILL TAKE HER A LITTLE TIME TO GET OVER IT SHE IS VERY MAD AT YOU FOR DOING THIS SHE THINKS YOU DO NOT LOVE HER SHE THINKS YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND HATES HER ARE THAT SHE WAS A BAD KID AND THAT YOU DID NOT WANT HER SO SENT HER AWAY TO LIVE WITH HER GRAND MOTHER SO NOW THIS IS HOW SHE WANTS IT THIS IS A SIRIUS ANSWER THIS IS WHAT IS GOING THROUGH HER LITTLE MIND YOU MIGHT TRY TO LAY HER IN THE BED WITH TELL HER YOU LOVE HER AND THAT YOU ARE REALLY SORRY BUT GRAND MOTHER WANTED TO SEE HER TO NOT JUST MOMMY AND DADDY TO. AND LET HER TAKE A BUBBLE BATH WITH YOU FOR SOME GIRL TIME READ HER A STORY AT BED TIME BUT DURING THE DAY WHEN YOU AND THE BABY ARE SLEEPING IN YOUR BED PUT HER IN THERE TO ONE ON EACH SIDE OF YOU AND YOU MIGHT WIN HER TRUST AGAIN OK TAKE CARE I HOPE THIS OUT OK GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-10 18:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i do no longer think of which you're able to take advise from all of us who hasn't been by using this themselves. My husband and that i went in direction of the comparable concern close to our seventh anniversary. It purely befell as quickly as, yet I see a accident here. possibly you're able to discover out precisely why he's seeking affection exterior of the relationship because of the fact it could no longer have been resolved after the 1st indiscretion. there's a huge distinction between love and intercourse as much as now as adult adult males are in touch. in case you and your husband have 2 toddlers (so do we) then spending time at the same time turns right into a undertaking, yet you're able to placed aside time to spend doing particularly some the failings which you probably did till now the youngsters arrive:) merely on the grounds which you're married does no longer propose you are able to't date one yet another. those circumstances happen while couples are too busy to be responsive to one yet another and family members subject concerns take a toll on the relationship. Your marriage would not could end, even however, that's had to be certain why he's so susceptible in the portion of sexual temptation. God Bless!
2016-10-01 22:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly i cant blame her for being mad at you.Why did you send her away?you may have broke her little heart she might have gone to bed at night crying because she missed her mummy.how could you bare to look into her eyes knowing you were sending her away that would break my heart.All she knows is that mummy sent her away and when she came back mummy and daddy have a new kid as a matter of fack i think uness you have a top reason that was the worst time of all to send a young child away she might have it in for the new child now. Its probably going to take her along time to trust you she might just be waiting for the time that you pack her up and send her away again.
2007-02-10 23:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to give her time and lots of love and attentions. As soon as your baby is down for a nap or sleeping spend serious one on one time with her. It'll take her a bit, but you have a natural bond and she'll be affectionate again soon. Remind her all the time that you love her lots and lots.
2007-02-11 00:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not that she doesn't love you. you need to get that out of your head. aside from my personal issues with you sending one child away because you were having another one, if that was the reason, you need to just be consistantly around her. she loves you, but you and the household routine and your mannerisms are all foreign to her right now. you need to give her time to adjust to being part of your family again. and having self pity for yourself about her not loving you is not going to make her feel any better.
2007-02-10 16:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by cagney 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well in her eyes, you abandoned her. Sad but true. You have to rebuild that trust. The best thing you can do is spend QUALITY time with her. Read, play dress up, laugh and be girls. Let her still spend time with her grandma, she bonded with her and needs to have that attachment for healthy development. Good luck, never give up.
2007-02-10 16:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Brandielion 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
kids will always love. she just might be afraid because its a new move for her, just give her some time to adjust, She is probably more nervous then you could imagine
2007-02-10 20:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by ompie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋