My friend is 18 and has a baby girl, everytime i see her with her daughter, it makes me want one. Are these feelings wrong or jsut natural like motherly instinct?
2007-02-10 16:45:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wanting a baby is not wrong at any age. Having one so young though is probably not such a good idea. Wait a few years when you'll be more financially secure and mature. (Not to say you aren't now, but you will probably be more so in a few years.) You'll be a better mother then.
2007-02-10 17:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by pisceswoman87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong but do remind yourself that while that baby is cute and adorable during the daytime or at a lunchdate, you do not see that baby girl at midnight, 1, 2, 3, or 4am and thats what babies do. You need to tend to them 24/7 after they've made their grand entrance and they don't go away. They don't care if you are tired or have a headache or if you've been up for 3 straight days. Take it from me, I had my first baby (single Mom) @ 37 and its HARD!!!!!!! I work full time, back and forth to daycare and virtually no time for me. Be sure that you live and enjoy life before tying yourself down. I absolutely love my baby, he's my world but they are quite a lot of work and expense. Just be informed. Maybe you could babysit for a night, a full overnight. That would give you a taste of what its like.
2007-02-10 16:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you like somewhat one choose for it :) Your 18, no longer 14. Your in fact an person now and if its what you easily need then i think of you're able to bypass forward ! I have been given broody at 15 years old, i became 17 8 weeks in the past.... and yep nevertheless broody ! im no longer making plans somewhat one each time quickly however, yet i could like my first between 18-24. you are able to even have objectives in existence, i desire to enhance right into a midwife, and im specific being a youthful mum wont end me in any respect as its been my dream job from being 5 years old. yet i additionally could like somewhat one so lots ! i'm specific i can blend the two someway :) don't be so specific your mum would be chuffed approximately it, my nan became 17 while she had her first, 18 along with her 2nd and 19 along with her third and while my cousin introduced she became pregnant at 15 she hit the roof ! my cousin is now 17 ( 18 in june ) and pregnant along with her 2nd and my nan despairs of it lol. infants are annoying artwork, they'll take up each minute of huge-unfold which you have. Being a mum is 24/7 and particularly some human beings think of it incredibly is merely to lots for a youthful woman to attend to.... yet you recognize your self greater effective than all of us, are you a hundred% specific ? .... if so then do despite feels top.... you in no way understand this can be the making of you :) X
2016-10-01 22:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS MOST DEFINITELY NOT WRONG
this "feeling" you get whenever you see the baby of your friend, isn't necessarily jealousy, nor greed, but you just may want a baby because of loneliness or just for someone to play with...
wanting a baby is not wrong, because it is more of an act of generosity, because you are giving a human being a chance in the world, a chance to succeed in life and be happy, instead of not living at all...
SO NO, IT IS MOST DEFINITELY NOT WRONG
2007-02-10 16:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by German L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's natural. I'm getting married soon and I definitely get those feelings every once in a while, but at the same time I know that raising a child is very difficult and expensive and me and my future husband need to get our lives settled before we seriously think about having kids. So I think it's fine to have those feelings, but remember that it takes a lot of work.
2007-02-10 16:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Serenity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising a child is very difficult and expensive. Don't even think about having kids until your married and financially stable. I'm a single mom who had a baby at 24. You can never get your youth back. Have fun now, your friend can't.
2007-02-10 16:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i wouldn't say it was wrong, but it is motherly instinct also. I had my first child at 18, but of course i was out of high school and married then.Just remember, it is consequences to every decision that u make.
2007-02-10 16:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by mizzjaxn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go explore the world and learn something useful
at 18, you haven't got a clue about anything
and do you want to be another teenage welfare mommy who is a burden to society, with nothing useful to teach your child?
2007-02-10 16:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by onemark1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait to have a baby until you have enough money, a good loyal husband, and alot of free time.
2007-02-10 16:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feelings are natural. but wait and see how quickly they banish when you see what a PAININTHEASS it is to be that young. and have a baby...
2007-02-10 17:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by Archangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋