your cousin? I love my cousin Daniel very much and we have made love in the past. I would like to again but he only does it after he smokes weed. When he's not stoned he says it's not right.
Can u please help me?
2007-02-10 16:32:36 · 43 answers · asked by Proud Muslimah- Beautiful Islaam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get him stoned and don't get pregnant.
2007-02-10 16:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by jasper creme 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋
The main reason having sex with a relative is not culturally acceptable is because if you have a child with a close relative that child could have physical problems. But like I said, usually with a close relative. So if you and Daniel are second or third cousins, and had a child, you are okay. With a first cousin, better not to bear a child.
2007-02-10 16:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by purple cow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to judge you by addressing the cousin factor. What I will say is that this doesn't sound like love to me. I wouldn't continue to have sex with him because I wouldn't call it making love since he clearly sees something wrong with it ..that's probably why he'll only do it when he's high. It's not a healthy relationship when sex only happens with drugs. He's already told you he doesn't think this is right. It sounds like he's using you for sex while you sound like you really like/love him.
Move on..find someone you can have a healthy relationship with, where sex can be honest, enjoyed without drugs and not a shameful secret.
PS. Please use protection and make sure if it's a condom ..that he's putting it on right. Condoms and drugs often turn into pregnancy cause someone isn't putting it on right.
2007-02-10 16:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by R! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am sorry to tell you this, but it isn't right. If any accidental way you were to get pregnaunt, this would not be healthy for the child. This a example and probably the best way to put it. When two dogs, have sex, and are some way related, they end up with not a necessaly dumb dog, but one that doesn't have it all there, or is over excited, can't be controlled.
Condoms, birth control, no matter what you try, remember condoms can break, have holes, etc, birth control is usually only 99.9 percent accurate, what about theat .1 percent.
Weed isn't good from my point of view, but others it helps them, in more ways then one. With your cousing it might be that he isn't thinking right, or see's you differently when he is high. I wouldn't have sex with him anymore. Find yourself a nice guy, and tell your cousin when it comes to sex get lost.
2007-02-10 16:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by aim 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No! You have the same DNA make up and if you have a baby, it can end up being retarded. Do you want to have to take care of his retarded baby for the rest of your life? Don't forget that weed can damage your baby too!
You don't want to sleep with someone that will only have sex with you after they smoke weed anyway!
You may love him, but it is NOT that type of love!
This is really NOT ok. Not good for you. Don't do it again. Never!
It's bad! What do you think your parent's would say?
2007-02-10 17:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by ReplicantZer0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spiritually- Not ok with God.
Physically- If you ever get pregnant- espesially if you are first cousins, you will chance the posibility of your genes being common, therefore, there can be genetic problems and birth defects of baby.
Emotionally- As you will probably read in alot of the answers on here- you will be ridiculed.
It really just isn't right.
2007-02-10 16:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by jamz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg funniest question ever- i know that you've been trying to mock islam
islam is clear on this matter - no fornication, no weed, no no no, what you are doing is wrong in many ways than one.
but the answers above: "oh weed should be legal, but sex with ur cuz, thats crazy" i cant believe people actually believed this "girl" probably some 80 year old pervert pretending to be a muslim girl lol
2007-02-10 23:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by ghostdude! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl that so wrong. He is your cousin and nothing more. I don't understand. All these men in the world and you pick your own cousin? Please be smart about this and don't do it. I feel that he is giving you mix signals anyway, meaning he's telling that it's ok when he's high, and it's wrong when he's not?!? He don't doesn't know how he feels about that either! Don't do it girl. It's not right.
2007-02-10 16:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mesha 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It depends on how far in the family tree he is. If he is a 3rd or 4th cousin I would not go there. Don't have sex with anyone. Give of your heart. It is way better to make love than have sex. There is a difference.
However I would strongly advise you not to go down that path if you can; after all he is family. I also agree it is not o.k. to take advantage of anyone who is druged or drunk.
2007-02-10 16:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by Buster 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
MORALLY it is WRONG to have sex with FAMILY - period. I don't care WHAT excuse ANYONE comes up with to rationalize it. Cos' Daniel doesn't "love" YOU!!! HE knows it's WRONG but hides behind the stoned excuse to get an easy lay!!! You need to figure out WHY you have such little self respect AND you need to learn what LOVE really is. Good luck!!
2007-02-10 16:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , sounds like u live in a country where cousin love isnt a bad thing, thas good, but well if he only screws you when he is stoned , then get him some weed and stone him , then get it on..do it enough time untill he loosen up and do you when u want it
2007-02-10 16:37:58 · answer #11 · answered by should i ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋