How can I get out of a abusive house?

Question

I am 16 and I live with my mom, dad and sister. My mom demands perfection and well, I simply can't meet her expectations. She fits the criteria for emotionaI, verbal and psycological abuse. My sister gave up and now acts like my mom to please her and my dad told me to suck it up and wait the two years till I graduate. I know that I need to do something, yet that last time I tried standing up for myself, my mom refused to look at me without crying. I don't else what else to do - I see nothing good about myself and all I do is cry. I want help or, maybe a way to escape; i wouldn't know how to use anyone'se advice. I want to get better because I am hurting my friends, boyfriend and grades at school. A counselor would be nice, but my town is too isolated. I am running out of places to go. Please help. I can give more details about my mom here: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjJjvGtJHzvJKrefYG9IlxDsy6IX?qid=20061203132041AAjb50P

I have already told one of my close friends -she's the media specialist at my school and my mom has been treating me like this since I was at least five. I realized something was wrong after attempting suicide when I was 12 and have started self mutilation.

Answer 1

amrfree2playmusic,

I hope things work out for you in good ways. What I suggest is that you and your sister move in with a good Christian family member or friend. Start a relationship with with God (J.C.) because He can help you in all areas of your life. Then go to a true Christian Counselor. You'll be in my prayers for the next few days.

Sunflower

P.S.: It is so smart that you have reached out for good help, please continue too.
Sunflower

Answer 2

I hate to say it, but at least it isn't physical abuse. I've been there and done that on occasion. If you are over 16 you may want to look into emancipation laws in your state to see if you qualify, but I suggest you have at least a part time job first or a friend that will allow you to stay if this was granted to you. You can always just do as your father says and try to stay away from your mom as much as possible for the next couple of years. Go to a friends or keep to your room( I did this a lot). You could insist on seeing a therapist with your mother, since she doesn't want to hear you out she may listen better with a go between , but that would take money and her cooperation so it may not be the best option. Good-luck, I hope you find a good solution.

Answer 3

It sounds like your having a rough time you should go see a counciler. I know you said you don't have a counciler in your town but go outside of town. Maybe go on a vacation with your best friend just to get away from your house. I'd say just for about a week or however long it will take you to recover. If you have a aunt or uncle or a grandparent maybe move in with them. Don't hurt yourself just because of your family. You need all of the help you can get right now.

Answer 4

Go to a teacher, or someone at church? You really need some help self mutilation is not the answer. Trust in God and keep asking for help until you are heard!Good luck!

Answer 5

in the adventure that your father commited against the regulation against you he needs to be prosecuted and held to blame, purely the fact which you're nevertheless suffering is information sufficient. tell an grownup, you realize extra acceptable than this, it is not 1960 people do no longer go through in silence any further. of path circulate as quickly as you may, yet no longer into an abusive relationship, you do no longer deserve it. tell your instructor or possibly a neighbor, a relative or pastor. p.s. nicely your instructor has each and each of the common liberal's words yet no intensity, no action, no compassion.

Answer 6

Find a church member or counselor at school, or a teacher you like and trust, and let it out. Tell them what's going on--they already know if your grades are slipping. I'm gonna pray you find help..........chin up! You're young and have the whole world ahead of you. Good luck, k

Answer 7

You should show your question on "Yahoo Answers" to someone of authority at your school. Preferable your counselor or school nurse or both. Do it right away. You need better help from professionals. Good Luck.

Answer 8

You mother is going through Meno-pause, and you are a teenager going through something similar, what you need to do is talk to a conselour or someone you trust, go ack home and try talking to your mother and explain to her both of you are going through similar troubles. Your father unfortunatly is a coward. and your sister, well she's doing a wrong kind of help for your mom.

Answer 9

well when there is time ask her if you can talk to her for a moment express yourself without throwing everything out start something like: mom i know im 18 and im getting older and soon i'm gonna be out of the house but i feel like your making me be what you want me to be not hat i want to be. somethiing like tht wish you best of luck :]

Answer 10

find a shelter near your home or look one up in the book you can sign yourself in and leave there andthey will help you. its better then being mistreated. good luck