i ahve been with this guy for 8 months and im 14 and he is 14 should i have sex with him...? he hasnt asked about it but what if he does what should i do? im kinds scared....but my body is still pure!! any one have advise??
2007-02-10 15:57:13 · 28 answers · asked by alwaysluckykitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, my personal opinion is hat you shouldn't have sex with him right now for several reasons. The top reason being, (in i'm pretty sure most states) it's ILLEGAL i don't know about your state but in Pennsylvania the legal age of consent is 16, so with both of you being 14, you could both get into legal trouble for having sex. Another reason is that your 14, the odds that you're going to stay with this guy forever are incredibly low, so you shouldn't have sex with him just because you think you'll be with him forever.
Now, while i am saying you shouldn't have sex with him right now, i also think its completely up to you. and you should have it whenever you feel comfortable. Just make sure you consider all of the possible consequences of doing it. You could get pregnant, get STD's, get in legal trouble (depending on location), depending on your parents you might get kicked out or disowned by them, you could also end up doing it once then feeling pressured to do it over and over again.
In this day and age people also do not readily and kindly accept persons as young as yourself having sex, its looked down upon, so thats another reason (although if truth be told, your body is ready by now to be having sex, in earlier times women were married having sex and having children at ages as young as 8 or 9, although during these times the life expectancie was till about 30...so mid-life was about 15)
Just remember, no one can force you to have sex, whenever you want to do it, do it, just consider all of the consequences. If you are thinking seriously about having sex though, definately use protection, like a condom. OR if there is a planned parenthood near you, they usually will let anyone at the age of legal consent(which you'll have to check the laws of your state) just come in, get examined and go onto the pill. if your under the legal age though you would definitely need a parent and probably need to say its for help with cramps on your period. Just keep in mind that the only method of birth control that is 100% effective is not having sex.
Oh, and if your not quite ready for sex and think you can control yourself...theres always other sexual things to do that aren't sex (masturbating eachother, oral, over the clothes, ect...)
Hope i was of some help, BE SAFE!
2007-02-10 17:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not do it! Wait until you get older and you will look forward to it then. The last thing you need at 14 is to end up pregnant or simply confused. There is no way to determine you will stay together and sex is definitely not the way to hold on to him. Just remain pure, trust me+I am 22, and I wish I would have waited still...
2007-02-10 16:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mermangel+720 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! You are 14 years old! Fourteen year olds shouldn't be having sex, ok? They should be holding hands and fighting in front of the lockers during passing period or something. You are fourteen so this means that most likely you and your boyfriend will not last. Stay pure or whatever. Just wait until you are at least a little older to make better decisions. Trust me on this one.
2007-02-10 16:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well my advise is DONT.....Your only 14..I still have not understood why our young ladies are growing up thinking sex is the number one thing to do in their life..Have to look at all that could happen..All these teenage babies without homes,,Honey,enjoy life,,dont get tied up in things that will come in time along with age...Trust me,,if you give of yourself now,,one day you will regret it. You may not think so but you will when you get older and look back on your life..We are only given one chance at each age..Make 14 count for something you can look back on and say HEY look what I did and Im proud of myself..Keeping away from sex(which the world has every kid believing is the ultimate goal) is a stronger statement of self control and pride than giving in...anyone can give in but a true man/woman will wait,,grow and mature before giving something so beautiful that should be out of a true love...May you really be blessed and may God light your way...
2007-02-10 16:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by glowworm 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! I am also 14 and I have been going out with my bf for 3 months, and we barely have even kissed! I say if it has to go to sex than you truely aren't in love or like them, it just means it is bored with what you have. Keep that body of yours pure at least until you are out of highschool! It could cause serious problems for your future if you did, and then There is also the fact of will you get pregnant, or what about STD's, and if the school finds out, than you will be labeled as the school slut, trust me, don't do this to yourself!
2007-02-10 16:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by nutmehgy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all at the age of 14 sex should not even be on either or ur mind.Second of all u have the right to be scared because ur body is not fully built for that.And if do ask him tell him NO and then explain why.
2007-02-10 16:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Cherelle M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could you handle having a baby right now?? If you can, then go ahead and have all the sex you want. My honest opinion is that you are waaaaaaay too young right now. There is a lot more to it than just put tab A into slot B. You have a lot of emotion things to think about as well. Don't even think about it, focus on having fun with your boy toy.
2007-02-10 16:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Alisa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear I say wait. There are to many kids your age,getting pregnant,and what do you think is going to happen? 14 year old boys only get jobs,racking leaves,and shoveling snow,it obviously doesn't buy diapers. Once you start having sex with a boy,he'll want it over and over again. Do you obviously think that he'll remember to put on a condem when he is sooo excited?
Wait til you are a little bit older,have sex is definitely worth the wait,and being in a stable...plausible relationship.
2007-02-10 16:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by Ellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter (2 oldest going to be 20) told me know way is she giving it up, just because she cares for a guy.She says that is lame, when a guy cares and feels for you he wouldn't pressure you. But also that is all guys think about is sex, their testosterone is in high gear and they will try to get any girl to do the deed. So be a smart one and wait till you are ready, like my daughter says there is enough sluts out there , for a guy to get what he wants and you don't have to be one, think about yourself and your future you will be happier knowing that he luvs you for you and not just for sex. Hope you make the right choice C C
2007-02-10 16:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by C C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the one treasure you have complete control of. You will know when you are ready. Don't let anyone talk you into it especially an immature 14 year old boy. TRUST ME! I waited until I was in college.
Last thing you want is to have rumors going around that you are easy.
2007-02-10 16:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by JNM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋