My mother in law lives overseas. We saw each other during the holidays, and had a disagreement. She is somewhat unstable I learned, and basically, I refused to let her walk all over me and go behind my back and tell everyone I was a crappy parent or do thing with my daughter I told her not to do. She is very manipulative and controlling, and to retaliate, she completely cut me off. We had some pictures taken of the family while they were in town, and I want my pictures. They were originally being sent to me, then I would send hers to her. Well, the company lost the address, and she told them to send them to her mother's. If she doesn't send me my copies, should I play, too and stop sending her picture updates on my daughter? Or should I still send her the group emails even if she has completely cut me off from anything in her family?
I don't know if I should stop sending her stuff, too. Would still sending her stuff be being a doormat? Or would it be being the bigger person?
2007-02-10 15:41:47 · 6 answers · asked by mountain_laurel1183 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
send the pictures. ur the bigger person that way and u leave the door open for her to open up to you some day
2007-02-10 15:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jebbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your husband about the problem? Maybe your mother in law is going through a rough time. Otherwise, it would still be helpful to let your husband know that you are not getting the best vibe from your mother in law. I would be the bigger person and send her the pics, and take that opportunity to remind her to send your stuff. Hope this helps.
2007-02-10 23:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by angelicfemale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your mother-in-law and my ex-mother-in-law are twins!
Be the bigger person and send the pictures, especially since you are sending them on a group email so its not like you are going out of your way to send them to her.
2007-02-10 23:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by jenny s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You be the bigger person. You don't have to be her doormat, but send her things from time to time, but only when you feel it may be necessary.
2007-02-10 23:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you should get on with your life. & depending on the emotional attachment you have for her... comunicate your depth of character. & send her pictures....the golden rule.....if you dont really care about her then ditch her.... but family is family & thats really the question...is she the kind of family you want in your life......my doormat says watch your step it might be your last....j/k
2007-02-11 00:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by greckel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bigger person. don't let small minded people get to you. be the good person you know you really are.
2007-02-10 23:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mike H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋