i recently broke up with my boyfriend and he said that I waited too long for us to have sex and he had said some racist things. But anyways, I made him wait for 8-9 months to have sex because I wanted to know if he truly love me or not. But I found out it was all based on sex and he wanted to get it b any means necessary. He cheated on me with at least 5 other girls and as soon I had sex with him he left me and started to disrespect me.
2007-02-10 15:41:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's why you shouldn't give yourself to someone unless you know they truly do love and respect you. I am all for waiting until marriage, but I realize that many people don't do that these days. I am sorry to hear of how your boyfriend treated you. What a slimy thing for him to do. Don't listen to what your boyfriend said. He is only displaying to you what a jerk he is by the words he is saying. Just consider that he is behaving trashy, boorish, and that he is not even worth your time. Girl, nobody should be using other people the way that he used you. You deserve to be treated with love, kindness and respect. He disrespected you after you had sex because as soon as he got what he wanted, the challenge was gone for him. Many guys like the conquest, and as soon as they get it, they get tired of and bored with who they are with and move on to someone else they can conquer. One day, this guy will have some STD or will be old and alone while all his friends, and girls he has used and abused, have moved on and had families who actually give a rip about them. And another thing - to say racist things to you just proves what an idiot he is. Cut yourself some slack for some poor judgment used because you were blinded by love. Then pick yourself up, dust yourself off, hold your head high and walk like the classy, dignified, worthy of respect, and too-good-for-him kind of girl that you are. He is not worth an iota of your energy or time. You SO deserve better. Go out and get it, but not until you have yourself a little celebration for being free from that boorish man wannabe.
2007-02-10 15:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you would be in a 'serious' relationship with somebody for 4-6 months, and that they do no longer finally end up related to the lack of ability of intercourse. Then that is acceptable. If after 2 weeks (or so), all they ask approximately is intercourse, then.. that is all they prefer. that is stable to try this, so which you do no longer come off as elementary... or a pushover. in case you sleep with somebody after 2 days.. they'd tell acquaintances. and you'd be referred to as elementary. maximum 'frequent' people wait till 15-17. some people lose it at 12. (they improve as much as be the stunning faces that grace the strip golf equipment and highway corners). some wait til 18. and a few wait til marriage. It concerns what you experience. once you're 30, and don't experience waiting, then dont do it. that is going to experience like 'self rape'. don't be in a hurry, like 0.5 the youngsters seem.
2016-09-28 22:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 8-9 months seems a little long to me but you need to do what you feel comfortable with! If you dont want to sleep with him, then dont. I usually wait a couple months, if its not going to go anywhere then I wont bother making the relationship more complicated with sex. Just go with the flow, do what you feel is right and if he doesnt like it he wasnt worth it anyway.
2007-02-10 15:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better! Wait until you are truly in love and know that your guy loves you back equally. The best relationships are the best for reasons other than sex. If a guy really does love you, he'll respect your decision to wait.
2007-02-10 15:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by BeachBoarder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i would say you should have never have sex with him...when he started cheating that simply ment that he could not control his hormoes and was simply not ready for a relationship.....don't you realize that every time you have sex with someone that you give them a peice of you exspeacillly if you truely in love.......next time you come across a situation lik that 1.make sure that he always have your best interest...2. if he is the first one to bring up th topic then watch out (that doesn't mean if you are playing around) 3.always follow your heart
2007-02-10 15:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by mocha-fava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it seems that you just picked the wrong guy. I usually wait until the feeling is right. However, I also use the the 3 month rule for relationships that are moving fast.
Will
2007-02-10 15:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Will W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait as long as feel you need to. Don't ever let anyone pressure you into having sex before you are ready.
2007-02-10 15:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by MissFr3sh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel like doing it.. then do it.. as long as ur in the right age... the guy wont force u to have sex wih him.. if he loves u enough he'll respect ur decision... before i promised myself that ill never have sex till i get married... but now, once i found the right guy who's worth to share the moments with... i'll definitely give myself...
2007-02-10 15:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by ((((marian)))) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? I have been with my guy for 9 months and he doesnt even talk about it! maybe you guy is jsut in cuz u look good and ppz want some of what nawt wow that sounded gross but girl dont worry guys are pricks and sex is all they think of!!
2007-02-10 15:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by alwaysluckykitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til you get married to have sex
2007-02-10 15:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by ✮Nikki✮ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋