everytime i find a guy i really like, i try to get close to him and nothing happens and it becomes awkward and i am forced to move on... i really want a boyfriend, and i don't think i'm too ugly, i'm pretty sure that's not it, and i'm not fat or anything, sorry that sounds conceited but its the only way you'll get the whole story so you can help. all my friends have found someone that has liked them back and now they are all happy and go out with each other on dates and it is SOOO special...but what if I never have that kind of luck? i'm almost 15 and i've never had a kiss, a boyfriend, and i've been to a dance with a date(that I had to ask) only once. I am not jealous of them, but it does get lonely sometimes and there's a guy that i like right now but he's older and I have no way of knowing if he feels this way about me...i like him A LOT but i think he might like one of my friends, i'm not sure...what do i do? it seems like i'm just a loser..but it hurts.
2007-02-10 15:11:57 · 20 answers · asked by aerie anna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if there are any high school guys that could give me advice...what makes you want to ask a girl out?
2007-02-10 15:13:19 · update #1
First of all, you are only 15 years old, and most girls your age are in the same situation. As for that older guy dilema, be sure you actually like this guy for him, not just for shallow reason. You are not a loser, you just aren't as flirtatious as your friends are, and that is okay, everyone is different. Check with your other friends and see if they think this guy is hitting on one of you. That way you will be able to have help with this problem. Good Luck!!
2007-02-10 15:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough thing to feel, and I'm sorry that you're struggling with it. But one of the things that I think you should realize is that it is VERY common for people to end up having their first kiss, etc, when they're fifteen, sixteen, even seventeen! There is the fact that you may be in a small school (anything less than 2000 is small), so you may just be stuck in a place without good people to choose from.
As for having this crush right now- the only way that you'll ever find out if you'd have a chance would be to confront him about it. It could be a note- an email, even (and probably best) face to face. You can't afford to think that you're a loser, though, because in ten years from now, looking back on all of the dates that you've had, all of the boyfriends you've had, you'll realize that you were just in the wrong place at the wrong time. You cannot judge yourself because of the lack of a boyfriend- you simply can't. Another solution is simply waiting. I know that this drives you crazy, and when I was looking to hook up with a girl (i"m a guy) for the first time, I found that waiting is absolutely unbearable. But now- I've had several relationships. You simply can't control or influence other people. Either they like you or they don't.
Sorry you're having a rough time right now, but keep your head up. The world is always changing- and so are you. You'll find out soon enough. :)
2007-02-10 15:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by chrisser665 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, it happens to all of us. Your time will come and you are probably just looking in the wrong places. I am 20 and I live with 2 girls who are on their way to being engaged and I am still single so I know how it feels. Some guys are just not worth your time...if you take a step back and wait for a guy to find you it will be way worth it. I got my first kiss at 17 and my first boyfriend...just let them find you. Be yourself...they need to really get to know you. Not every guy will like you and it will hurt but you will move on and find someone who will make you forget all the other losers...just give it time!
2007-02-10 15:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience.
At your age I dealt with the very same issues. I am a male but had some of the same problems you are facing when i was 15. I am now 23 and married. So it may happen all faster then you think.
Let me suggest something read the book Joshua Harris' "I Kissed Dating GoodBye." Now don't be fooled by the title. Its not literally talking about kissing dating Goodbye. But its about priorities. And purposeful dating.
Also don't be afraid to tell a guy you like him. Guys like that, most down right adore that.
2007-02-10 15:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so young. I was 19 when I had my first date and my first kiss. My sister was 22. Don't get me wrong, we haven't been single more than 4 months since we started dating. Most guys aren't even brave enough to ask a girl out at that age. At your age I was interested in guys but having way to much fun with my friends to even want to go out with them. Guys will be around for a long time. Someday you will get married and wish you had more time to spend with your girlfriends.
My advice: Unless you are ready to marry, don't date. Spend as much time with your friends because someday it will be a guy that you will spend your whole life with. Not that that is bad.
2007-02-10 15:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, maybe yoo just need to relax; you're probably making them nervous! I can't tell for sure because I don't know you, but it sounds like you might just be too shy, not know how to flirt, or something like that.
You shouldn't feel bad; 15 is really very young and there are probably a lot of other girls (and guys) in the same situation you're in; you just notice the ones who aren't.
2007-02-10 15:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, stop dwelling on it. i know how difficult it is when you see the rest of the girls out there getting together with someone. but i think that it happens when you least expect it (yeah its a cliche but oh so true) and at a time when you are just so happy being by yourself. there is nothing wrong with you. it just probably isn't the right time yet. so try to enjoy being single first. it does happen you know. besides, there are advantages to being single :) heads up
2007-02-10 15:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl slow down!!!!!!! You are way to worried about what if first of all. You have plenty of time to get a guy. May be if you just chilled out some and stopped trying so hard, it would just come natural.
2007-02-10 15:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Amy H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre 15, come on there is plenty of time for relationships. This is the time to focus on your career and emotional development. Participate in social activities, if you find someone fine if not that's ok too......
2007-02-10 15:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by nicewknd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋