I was married to a woman who had a child from a previous relationship. She and I got together and were together a total of 8 years. 5 of those years we were married. In 1997 she started nursing school. In 1999 she ran me off and soon after moved the 1st childs father into the home we shared. I moved on and married again but had no other kids. This guy used her and done her just like he did before they were married. I was her !st husband and I was very much in love with her. We have talked some over the last 7 years, a few times we were intament. I wonder what am I gonna do because she is seperated and so am I. She wants to have a relationship. We have a kid together. I dont know if I can trust this woman.
2007-02-10 15:10:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you think you can't trust her than it's just not worth it. It would be unfair for the child for you to get back together and then have to break up again because you didn't trust her enough in the first place.
You have a place in your childs life now, don't you? If you don't, be sure that you have rights to your child and take care of him/her FIRST. Don't get involved with this woman just because you have a child together. Have a relationship with her if you love, TRUST and respect her. You can't have respect without trust...can you??
I would seriously think hard about this....it's not "just another" relationship when there's children involved. The most important person here is the child. Not you, not the mother, the CHILD. This will effect that little boy/girl for the rest of thier lives so tread carefully.
Hope it all works out for you and you make the right decision.
2007-02-10 15:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Man, you are married and you can't disrespect your current wife even though you are separated. Take a long hard look at why you are separated. Is it because of your first wife? I sure hope not. You need to remember, your first wife ran you off for someone else. Your son will always be a part of your life and remember what he sees you do is what he is learns to do as an adult. You need to get your mind straight, be completely honest with yourself, and get things straight on your end before you worry about what you should do with your ex wife!!!! Your current wife doesn't deserve this at all. I have been through two marriages myself and I know how badly it sucks to have kids involved. You need to make sure you are making the moves you would want them to see you make. Remember that!!!!
2007-02-10 23:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in all honestly it sounds like you have doubts so that means at the moment you don't trust you. Just because you have a kid with her doesn't mean you have to be with her.
Are you happy with her? If so then stay and work things out and if you are not 100% and have doubts then try to work on the friendship first.
2007-02-11 03:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mami of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really think that she wants you or do you think she's just waiting for the next good thing to come around? i understand that falling out of love with someone is hard; even more so when there are children involved but, are you a doormat? she should want to be with you and only you and you should want to be with her why don't you give your current marriage a try before you go after this woman again.
2007-02-10 23:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by lady_ebs 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe everyone is entitled to a mistake, but at the same time, you don't know you can trust her. If you really want to make a go of it, start slowly and see what kind of feelings develop. If you start feeling that you can trust her in your heart of hearts, then you move forward. If you are honest with yourself and you cannot trust her with your heart, then move on.
2007-02-10 23:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your gut feeling is usually on the right track . . . there's a saying, "when in doubt, toss it out." You're the only one who can watch out for yourself, so listen to yourself very carefully.
2007-02-10 23:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to trust anyone nowadays.
2007-02-10 23:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by Luv My Corgi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't trust her! Her track record proves it. She has no sense of commitment.
2007-02-10 23:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Brainer. You are both looser's
2007-02-11 00:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by Murray H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋