My son is afraid ,?

Question

hi my 4 year son is afaird of everything , noise , high volums , dark , he cant stay alone even for a minute allways sitting close to me wat should i do ???

iam very confused :s

Answer 1

You could read him a bedtime story about someone who was afraid of the dark and overcame it. Those are great because the child relates, and it usually shows ways to not be afraid of the dark. Let me list a few I can remember off the top of my head:

Adventure in the Dark (A "Honey Bear Books Happy Ending Book." (this one is old, but I remember it when I was young and afraid of the dark, so it is my favorite!)

I remember there was one with Franklin the turtle.

There's one about a monster who is afraid because he thinks there's a boy in the closet (sorry I don't remember the name, but a librarian might be able to help you since this one is fairly popular. It is very funny and helps the kid relate to the monster. Your son may even want to meet the monster in the closet after this book!).

I'm sure there are many others out there. Probably most series childrens' books have them (Arthur? Berenstein Bears?).

For me, the best were the ones that weren't a series (the ones that were their own book). But the series ones are great, too.

Anyway, this is something which helped me a lot when I was afraid of the dark. I hope it helps your son, too!

One other thing I thought of: I don't know if your son's seen Monster's INC, and I don't know if it will help, but that one is about monsters in the closet. If he sees this and is afraid of monsters in the closet, you could just remind him that the monster he meets might be Mike and Sully!

Answer 2

Oh boy... do I have this one covered :o) My Son was very much afraid of everything up until 8th grade. It worried me to death. I was very patient with him and respected his feelings and fears, all the while explaining the reasons why these things would not hurt him...I think I repeated the same things about 5000 times over the years. I got told he was a "Mamas boy" MANY times, but I knew what he needed and I trusted my heart. As he got older we got him involved in sports and watched his confidence grow every year (let me tell you...the first 3 years was torture cause he was terrible at these sports, not aggresive at ALL) but he enjoyed it and so we kept at it. I'm happy to say that he was all conference in football his Sr. year in high school, made state in wrestling, and is VERY confident in who he is and where he wants to go. I NOT happy to say that he is now 19 years old and a BULLRIDER in our states rodeo circuit...oh how I long for the days he was afraid of his own shadow :o) Trust yourself, you know your child better than anyone! Keep hugging him and reassuring him that he can handle these things, and if he's afraid then let him be afraid...he will find his confidence! The only "sidebar" I would add is that my son was always a little timid, if this is something that has come on suddenly then I would dig a little deeper to find out where it's coming from.
Best of luck to you and your Son

Answer 3

Noises and volume might be tough because he just may be phsyically sensitive to it. There may not be a lot you can do, short of hoping he outgrows it.

Being alone -afraid of the dark is a little different. What I did with my daughter was to just to try having her stay by herself in her room for very short intervals of time (30 seconds, maybe) until she could be successful doing it. Then gradually I could start extending the time little by little.

As for afraid of the dark, you could try a dimmer switch in his room. Every few nights, don't turn the light on quite as high. If that is too much of a pain, you might consider getting a few lightbulbs with smaller wattage, and replacing them every few weeks.

I wish you well. Hopefully, your son will do well.

Answer 4

Start by showing him it's ok. Let him investigate the noises with you so he can see it's nothing. The dark fear, most kids are, use a night light. We have one in the bathroom and in the kids room. Just make sure he feels comfortable with his environment. Maybe a special stuffed animal to make him feel safe no matter where he is. Kids sometimes pick up on parents fears too. If it continues too long ask the doctor.

Answer 5

DEAR
HE IS JUST TRYING TO REBOUND WITH HIS MOMMY HE IS AFRAID YOU ARE GOING TO LEAVE HIM AND NOT COME BACK SOME KIDS ARE LIKE THAT YOU KNOW. IF HE IS SCARED OF THE DARK THEY HAVE NIGHT LIGHTS NOW THAT GO ON AND OFF WHEN YOU MOVE FOR THE BATHROOM ONLY PLEASE WHEN YOU CUT THE LIGHTS ON THEY GO OUT WHEN IT IS REALLY DARK THEY STAY ON AND THEY ALSO MAKE THEM WITH A ON AND OFF SWITCH OK. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO DEAR IS PUT THE ANSWERING MACHINE ON CUT THE PHONE ON OFF AND MAKE A BUBBLE BATH FOR YOU AND HIM AND WHEY YOU ARE GIVING HIM A BATH ASK HIM QUESTIONS LIKE WHILE ARE YOU AFRAID OF THE DARK HE MIGHT TELL YOU ALSO AFTER THE BATH GET A REALLY GOOD CHILD'S BOOK LAY IN YOUR BED READ TO HIM UNTIL HE GOES TO SLEEP AND PUT HIM IN HIS BED OK AND PUT STUFF TOYS A TRAVEL PILLOW THAT YOU CAN MAKE INTO A BABY PILLOW IT USES REGULAR PILLOW CASES IF HE IS NOT A THUMB SUCKER LET HIM IT DOES NOT HURT ANY THING AND THE TEETH CAN BE FIXED UP WHEN HE GETS IN HIGH SCHOOL ARE MIDDLE SCHOOL OK TAKE CARE

Answer 6

Is this behavior something new? Please find a safe and quiet place to ask why he feels this way? Is he exposed to people, places, or situations which may be frightening? Is it separation anxiety, some other form of anxiety, or genuine fear? Does he see things? Hear things? Is he on medication? Does he have medical problems? Are there other people in the household whom he may find threatening? If this behavior continues, you should find professional help through his pediatrician as soon as you can. No child should suffer behavioral or emotional problems.

Answer 7

This happens to me still, and i am 12. I'll be walking down the hall to my room and suddenly my mom hollers at me( just like to come here) and i literally jump out of my skin and say " GOD!!! WHAT DO YOU WANT!" im not mad just startled. or ill be on computer late at night and ill here something and turn around (my kitchen is behind me), it's long and dark and ill get that " im home alone and some muderer is outside trying to get in" feeling. or ill just sit in my room for a couple mins. and ill get nervous. usually i sing a song really loud. trust me it works. ♥

Answer 8

He will probably grow out of it, so my best bet would be to wait it out, and make him fell as comfortable as you can in the time it takes,

If he is still scared by the time he starts Primary school, maybe seek therapy,

Go to where you can add details to your question and write how long this has been happening for, and if something might have triggered it, more people would be able to help then.

I hope he gets better.

Answer 9

Let him carry around a flashlight at all times, and a whistle to blow so when he's afraid he blows it and he'll know you'll always be there. He become more confident this way.
By the way, I'd let a little more time (seconds) pass each time you come to him. Then eventually, he'll be glad to wait a minute....0r 5 !

Answer 10

you may desire to purpose getting somebody else that may not would desire to be so "easy" to place him to mattress any extra! See, it is not what you will desire to do now, that is what you mustn't have finished interior the 1st place. extremely some sons and daughters are fearful of monsters yet now the baby is fearful of wolves and criminals too, simply by fact of your "honesty". isn't a 2nd grader somewhat youthful to be aggravating approximately wolves and criminals? Do you reside in a community the place there are wolves ?