My boyfriend and I were laying in bed watching a movie. He got a call from another girl (whom I happed to know is interested in him, because I've had to watch her flirting with home more than once) and she was calling to see what he was up to (9 o'clock on a Saturday night). Since we were in bed together, I could hear her talking to him, and she seemed upset that he was with me, even called herself his "at work girl-friend). He insists that she is just a friend, and he had given her his cell phone number in case her car broke down and she needed a ride to work. He would never cheat, and he doesn't even notice her advances...He thinks I'm wrong for being pissed, but wouldn't anybody?
2007-02-10 14:52:43 · 14 answers · asked by citygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Certain important factors were left out of your story:
Did he cut the conversation short and get off the phone or did he act in a flirty, secretive manner. to her.
He did tell her you were there didn't he, then how did he say that, like he was happy or in an "I can't talk, she's here" kind of way.
Such an incident could be interpreted in a number of ways, since you were there, I would think you would have to figure out just exactly if it is anything to worry about.
2007-02-18 15:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold up! Why does everyone assume he is cheating? I knew a girl who would pull the same things with me and I never did anything with her. Nor did I want to. You do have a right to be upset if he has given you a legitimate reason for distrusting him. If her calling him is your only reason for doubting him, you need to relax. However, when he is laying in bed with you, why is he answering his phone at all? Regardless of who is calling. That is a lack or respect.
2007-02-18 12:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by scarbados 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not committed to you. If he were committed to you, she would not be calling at 9:00 at night.
If you are his girlfriend, he needs to respect you more than that.
It is okay for him to have a female friend, if her car really broke down and he wanted to help her , then she should limit her calls to those times only. The fact that she calls her self his "at work girlfriend" tells me that he likes the attention he is getting from her and he may be doing some.... what he would call,,, "innocent flirting"
Take care of your heart , and don't be afraid to speak up for your self, would he like it if the situation were reversed??? ..probably not!
2007-02-17 10:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what agreement you have with this dude. If you two have made an actual commitment to each other, then stick to it. People should keep their agreements. If you have not made any agreement, then stop complaining - you are both free agents. Most importantly, get rid of any exclusive possessiveness feelings; they screw up a lot of relationships. You do not own your guy. It is natural and healthy for each person to have more and more love to share with as many others as possible (I said love, not sex).
2007-02-18 14:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by fra59e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gave her his number for only if her car breaks down then thats the only time she should be calling him. It sounds like he is cheating or one day things are gonna heat up between those two and he is going to cheat. Just protect your heart and be cautious.
2007-02-17 13:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by Levi's baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would totally be mad, I mean at work girlfriend? That's taking it a little too far. You should ask your guy why shes even "friends" with him in the first place and see if its really a legitimate answer.
2007-02-18 14:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by HorseGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is being genuine but she has got the wrong picture!! if thats the only reason she should be calling then she should not be calling at 9 on sat night! you need to tell him to tell her that she has the wrong idea and he is happy with you.. if he says he wont tell her then he could be cheating... but i doubt he is! if he is too shy to tell her you get her number and tell her for him! if shes a ***** about it e mail me and i'll tell her!!! good luck
2007-02-18 12:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would upset me. I am sure it would upset him if another guy was calling you, and calling himself your boyfriend. Does she not have a friend that she could call if her car broke down? Your boyfriend's story smells fishy to me....
2007-02-18 04:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YEA man that is grimy for doin that 2 u i bet u r much better then her knowin this gurl she well do sumin 2 her car just 2 see him i ant talkin snip but she sound like that kind of gurl.!!!
2007-02-18 11:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by young mixed mami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm hell yea id be pissed!! at work girl-friend? If hes not gettin it maybe you should talk with her? why should she get mad at him for being in the bed with you, his girlfriend? that doesnt make sense, maybe you should ask her are they together?
2007-02-18 13:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Butterfly Princess16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋