Men seem to want the ' whole package ' . Are you more interested in a woman who is attractive with a beautiful soul or a woman that you find attractive and you ache to have sex with her very soon in the dating scenerio ?
A woman is found to be attractive, has a beautiful soul, interesting, fun to be with . . . Yet, so many blow it by seeking to have sex with her too soon. Then he goes around wondering...Where can I find a woman of my dreams. . . him not realizing she was right there in front of him and he did'nt nuture coming to know her soulfully, respectfully as he kept encouraging the sharing of sex...so she parted ways with him and walked. If he had ' behaved ' himself, he would have that woman with the beautiful soul that would be joyed to share in a sexual relationship...when the time was more right.
Why do guys have a great woman right in front of them and mess up the developing of a relationship by keep encouraging to have sex after only a few or several dates ?
2007-02-10 14:50:55 · 20 answers · asked by onelight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
" Gluckstad ". . . What if that woman was 40 + and still experiences men as that ?
2007-02-10 15:06:28 · update #1
because they are immature
2007-02-10 14:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do women feel that the nature of men is wrong and the nature of women is right? Who said that you own the standard? We are different. We are designed differently. Personally I find male sexual pushiness wrong, but as a man, I can tell you the desire to move things along is always there and always will be. I don't judge the way men are as wrong - it's kinda like hating sunrises to a person who likes to sleep in. The sun is going to come up regardless.
Women are not like men. We could say, "why don't you just hop in the sack easier?" But most men don't bother to ask. We accept and cherish the differences. Although many men feel that women are too difficult in every way.
Well, now that I've spit that out ... I'd rather have a great wine from a can than I'd like to have rotgut swill in a beautiful bottle. If I can find both together, that's what I'd pick.
2007-02-10 15:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, guys like sex. It is human nature to procreate, and no level of intelligence can deny that urge. It is found all through the animal world as well. It is because of this that we feel that sex is a very important and integral part of any relationship which we choose to pursue. Personally, I feel that no matter how beautiful a woman's soul is, if there is little/no/crappy sex, i wouldnt want to stay with that person.
Don't get me wrong, I am NOT telling you to abandon your morals, for what you do is admirable. Patience will prevail, in your case, because kharma dictates so. You will find the man that you deserve, all in good time.
2007-02-10 14:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that the person who determines when sex will start is the woman, the guy can only guess and hope. If a woman feels something for a guy she could say to him that if she continues to feel as she does, then maybe an intimate relationship can start after another month or so. Guys are not good at head games, but give them a goal and you have a guy who works toward that goal. If in the meantime you decide to call it off, then you have that option.
Good luck
2007-02-10 14:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy. And I may be able to answer your question. Most people in general do not sit down and think about their future. They don't think about how what they do now will affect their future. Most people tend to live in the "here and now." Guys, as all of us know, have very powerful sex drives. Since most guys you will meet only think in the present and are driven physically by a phenomenon that wants what it wants and wants it now, this creates a problem. Which is the question you are asking.
I know I sound like a dictionary but most guys tend to think solely in the present. you don't seem like the type of person that will settle for less than perfect which is great. One day you will find the guy you are looking for because one will either grow up or one of those few who are born grown up will find you. I know this because perfect guys like perfect girls. Plus the chances are if he cant control himself in one area there are going to be other areas of his life that are going to be out of control. Hopefully this at-least gives you a different look at things.
2007-02-10 15:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by blis212920 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the woman is good looking and a great personality any guy would want that. Guys don't ruin relationships with sex. If the girl says she wants to have sex after a few dates that doesn't mean things are dead. Sex does NOT kill relationships.
2007-02-10 14:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. Men want the "whole package." Men want their woman to be attractive, interesting, have a beautiful soul, fun to be with AND want to have sex with her.
Women long for an emotional bond, but men long for the physical stuff. It's not that complicated.
2007-02-10 14:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by cy ko tic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because most of us are pigs.....from experience if the guy isnt a total pig he will wait for the sex which will make your relationship mean so much more when you actually have sex.I had a friend who didnt have sex with his girlfriend over 9 months of them being together and when they finally did she left HIM......the whole package is what matters in the end--a little bit of attractivness is required but if your going to be with them in the long run look for how you get along interests etc.......being married 4 years the outisde fades but whats inside will matter until you die.....just wait and make sure because a man that enjoys your company will love you much more than a guy who just wants the looks,because they do fade.
2007-02-10 15:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by kit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends of the guy like age and experience. Take me for example, I’m 24 going to 25, I have date girls that are very sexy and girls that are very nice in there soul, at the end I just not ready to get marry, but for me know is that y want both, somebody that is sexy but not a slut and somebody that is nice and have a good soul. Self confidence is a good attraction that we guy look for.
2007-02-10 14:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys as a whole are not taught relational relationships but only surface. For a guy to reach that level of mature that you seek....look beyond someone in their 20s....and maybe even their 30s. It takes several life lessons for men to desire the attrivive soul.
Hope this helps
2007-02-10 14:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by gluckstadt_randy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attractive and a beautiful soul. Because she will want sex one day and then i got the whole package,
2007-02-10 14:57:09 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋