I fell in love with this girl 600 miles away. She told me she loved me. She said that she wasn't in love with me and didn't love me like I love her. Is there anything I can do to change her feelings about me? I mean, I told her she was beautiful, that I loved her, that she was amazing. I wrote poems for her and did everything sweet and nice that I could think of. I even bought her a ring that I've yet to give to her. Did I do something wrong?
2007-02-10 14:38:30 · 17 answers · asked by Ducky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't get her a ring to fall in love with me. When I thought she did love me, I got her a ring. I was going to give it to her on Christmas, but I thought it might be too forward, so I held back.
2007-02-10 14:51:14 · update #1
No...But long distance relationships are hard..especially that far....its almost impossible to see each other with that distance
2007-02-10 14:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She either found another woman, another man, or maybe even both. 600 miles is a long way. There is nothing specific that you can do that you have not already done to win her love back. In fact, the more you try the more you will push her away. Buying rings and writing poems only work when the person that you court WANTS to be courted by you. She has probably found another challenge, a new mystery to solve, one much closer to her than 600 miles. I'm sorry my lady, that's the way love goes. You seem like a sweet person so don't give up on love. Move on with your life and be patient. The sooner you "let her go" the sooner you can heal and find that new challenge that will make your heart flutter. Good luck and remember this one thing for your own good. Chasing someone that wants to be free of you only hurts you. You become a needy supplicate in the eyes of your former love. Let her go. If she loves you she will come back, but by that time you may not even want her back.
2007-02-10 15:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is very little you can do to change a woman's mind to change her feelings about you. You are also geographically undesirable which doesn’t help your case.
What did wrong is make her feel like you were trying to gift her love meaning you try to buy her affection. You are sounding desperate here in your post so she obviously felt the same energies from you. Contrary to popular belief women don't feel attraction toward nice guys acting like wussy boys.
The best thing you can do is back off and stop exhibiting the behaviors she is not attracted. Stop complimenting her and telling her she is amazing. This action may be making her feel uncomfortable because you are acting like a sappy lovesick puppy. This is not how a real man would handle his feeling of love. She see you as a weak boy not a strong male in control of his emotions.
Starting exhibiting the action of a more mature man in control of his emotion and she may take a second look at you has a possible boy friend / lover.
For God sake don’t tell her you bought a ring.
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I understand about the ring. If this girl said she loved you before still your actions may be a turn off. You still have a chance if she in not in love with someone else. Only you know what you have done in actions, having said that, you have to really look at your actions in an honest light. You are talking about all the wonderful things you have done for this girl. Take a close look at your attitude towards the gifts you have given her. It almost sound like you thinks she owes you her love because of the things you have given her. If I can detect this from your question what must she feel?
Stop with all the giving stuff. People in love care more about gifts of being together not materialistic giving. Learn to value her as a person and show more appreciation through you actions not through your giving gifts. Immature men just don't get the subtlety of what I am saying here. Read my words and let them sink in.
2007-02-10 15:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line as sad as it is, you can't make somebody love you. A lot of times they will end up coming back to you later in life when you have moved on but we dont know if that will be the case for you or not. All you can do reallyis just be a good friend to her and try not to be pushy. At least you will still be in her life and you never know what might happen. Hang in there hon
2007-02-10 14:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong, you just fell for someone who is geographically undesirable... be strong, move on with your life. Don't give her a ring --- material things aren't the way to get someone to love you -- she should love you without those kinds of things, and since you said she doesn't, there's really nothing you can do. Getting over someone is hard, especially when they don't return your feelings, but just hang out with friends, and you will meet the one for you when it's time.
2007-02-10 14:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 22:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has already told you that she is not interested in you that way, then you need to just drop it or you will chase her off all together. It would be better have her as a friend then nothing at all. In that way, something could develop later as long as you do not push her. No, there is nothing you can do to make a person love someone else.
2007-02-10 14:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you even though you love them..just let them go and move on to someone who will love you back the way you deserve, and the way you love them...sounds like she just said I love you, and was just being nice...I know, I've said things and really didn't mean it, and though it's not right to say it if you don't mean it, it hurts the other person...but, you cannot make her love you, if she doesn't it doesn't matter what you do, and all the compliments and buying and so forth won't change it...just move on, before you get hurt worse...you'll find someone else
2007-02-10 14:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love isn't something that can be bought with poems and rings. If she honestly doesn't love you, then there is probably nothing that can be done, and you should maybe move on.
2007-02-10 14:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Respen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are far away....just let it go and look a bit closer so you will be able to work at a relationship..she can tell you anything she feels, there is nothing you can do about it...It may make yousad a while but you will get over it...
2007-02-10 14:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't love you then move on you a wounderful person and you will find love some day i promise i did;;;; Be strong and u have got to move on>> best wishes
2007-02-10 14:42:46 · answer #11 · answered by kimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋