Seeking authentic answers . . . not crast ' obvious ' answers.. I'm 40+ age range and when coming to know a guy the guy seems interested in me personally yet at times it's revealed that he is really only interested in sharing a sexual relationship.
I may be mutuallly attracted to a guy that way . . . yet I don't care to share with him in that manner as I want to come to know him personally first.
Socializing and kisses are fine to share...Yet, I've found myself in situations, while kissing a guy, that it seems clear that he wants to share more after having only gone out 4 or 5 times.
Suggested phrases / conversations to have with the guy to let him know you still want to know him personally...yet more intimate touching is not something that is sought out on dates ?
Keep to public dates ?
If I go to his home or my home how to keep on the 'safe side'.
Does a guy assume that when at his or your own home that it's a signal from a woman that she is open to the thought of sex ?
2007-02-10 13:53:53 · 6 answers · asked by onelight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I've shared a nice day time date and he asks to see me in the evening . . . I've at times pretented that I have evening plans just to stay away from the temptation the the nighttime can bring about. I don't like pretending like that...Any suggestions for clear conversation early in dating relationship to set ' boundries ' when it's discovered he wants more after only 4 or 5 dates . . . or take that as a ' sign ' of his intent and stop seeing him >
2007-02-10 13:59:46 · update #1
I experienced that today . . . that's why I'm home at 7:00 this evening. We had nice daytime date and asked to see me this evening. He asked if he might come over to my place . . . I've not had him to my place yet.
2007-02-10 14:05:09 · update #2
I am engaged now but when I was dating I had this problem. It is very hard for a woman in the dating scene. It is hard to find a man that is not wanting or expecting something sexual.
I went with this code for myself when I was single,maybe it will work for you..I would let anyone know up front that wanted to date me that I did not want a sexual relationship. I told any guy that I would not not sleep with them until atleast 6 months into this. Now sometimes it would not be that but...atleast I was not pushed. I also would never go to a guy's home or invite him to mine. I did however have one guy over one night but it was a couples dinner party. I let him know that he could not stay late because I had to work early in the morning. Intimate touching and kissing was a no no because I did not want to lead him on. You should be fair to him also. If I told him no sex (until I was ready) then I did not want to tease him. Good luck and have fun...
2007-02-10 14:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the guy. There are some guys out there that are probably asking the same question. If you are uncomfortable being alone because you think he wants more than a kiss then maybe tell him that, and if you can't do that then wait for the moment when he tries something and tell how not ready you are for that.
2007-02-10 13:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sugarplum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to make it clear that sex is not for you yet. Any guy can agree to that and then when sitting and kissing, he gets turned on, Thats for you to deal with. I am sure you dress to excite him, so let him get excited and then back off in a gentle way, then his memory will come back.
He cannot stop himself from getting excited, so accept that and let him down gently
If you date quality guys, saying NO is your protection.
2007-02-10 14:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your dates in public places...don't do anything more then casual kissing for say 10 dates...if he pushes the subject just say you like to know ur partner first and see where it goes from there
2007-02-10 13:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that sucks... I am the same way.. I don't think it gets any better at this age... The older the guy the more pushy he will be ... and most guys will only go for that one thing...
ask your dog... lol...
2007-02-10 14:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with a gay guy and u try to convert him that he won't make a move on u cuz he is gay so u are safe in that department
2007-02-10 13:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by exterminator6969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋