i always get a guy who seems nice, but then hurts me.how can i get a guy who is what he seems?
2007-02-10 13:51:35 · 15 answers · asked by HarleyQuinn2011 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best piece of advice I can give you is to take your time. The reason your getting hurt it is because your moving to fast, your falling to hard and before you know it you have been hurt because the guy you thought you were in love with just ripped your heart out. It takes a long time to find the Mr. Right. You need to take a break from relationships untill your emotionally healthy. Meet new people! Make Friends! Be Happy! and before you know it you future husband will come knocking on your door.
about that,i dont get guys 24/7.i am not a slut.i know the guys,but not good enough i guess.and i havent been in love for a long time.i have never said "i love you" to anyone outside of family other than my closest friends.
2007-02-10 14:06:04 · update #1
don't settle...select...yeah i know its froma soup commercial...but its right...don't just find a boyfriend you want...you have to find one you need...there is a big difference...and you also might want to find out the guys that like you...b/c then you know that they want you instead of u wanting them.
2007-02-10 13:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best piece of advice I can give you is to take your time. The reason your getting hurt it is because your moving to fast, your falling to hard and before you know it you have been hurt because the guy you thought you were in love with just ripped your heart out. It takes a long time to find the Mr. Right. You need to take a break from relationships untill your emotionally healthy. Meet new people! Make Friends! Be Happy! and before you know it you future husband will come knocking on your door.
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2007-02-10 22:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK it sounds like your still fairly young and picking out red flag behaviour still eludes you. Now this may sound a little overly logical but there is all kinds of personality tests on the net. Ive taken a few tests with female women Ive dated. Women seem to have fun with it more-so than men but men will humour most women and do it.
The point I am getting at is... Those might help find those red flags before you actually need to slit the sheets and become physically as well as emotionally attached when you find out his other foot drops. People hide things well for a while but if you know what your looking for you can see through smoke screens. That takes researching things and sometimes bad experiences.
Take the L out of LOVER then its OVER... L is for LEAVING!
You do know church preachers, pastors, psychologists and other professionals will always be glad to offer help with proper mate selection. And if they already know you they can somewhat steer you to personalities that match yours per se.
I hope that helped
2007-02-10 22:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I was once told on the subject "You get what you are." I noticed part of your question said "I always get a guy". That is the thing. You need to focus on being a sweet, smart, kind young lady, and not settling for that kind of a guy. I am being single this valentines by choice and I know if you do the same you will not regret it and hey...maybe mr. right will like you even more for not being easy. Hope I helped!
2007-02-10 21:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you look at local churches if you are religious because 9 out of 10 times guys who are trying to find God have a little more decency in their hearts. You can also be a little more aware of warning signals. I am sorry you have been hurt.
2007-02-10 21:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people nowadays are too bent up on going out on a date when they barely know the person. Maybe you should try really getting to know someone, perhaps as a friend, before enterting a relationship? That way you know whether or not they'll hurt you and if you like them or not.
2007-02-10 21:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to be with the guy you like before as a friends because you need to hang out with him and learn what kind of person they are before trying to get with them... If they are really nice when they first meet you then hes not that way normally but if its a guy that act normal and is nice normal then thats the guy you should be with
2007-02-10 21:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you GET the guy? Your friends should have friends who are nice, or cousins, or something. Otherwise, hang out at nice places--NEVER at a club. And NEVER expect to be happy by being with a guy who APPROACHED YOU from across the room! Life doesn't work that way!!
2007-02-10 21:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by joe m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read--How to Spot a Dangerous Man--you need to know what to look for next time around--what the signs and symptoms are of men who are covertly dangerous!
2007-02-10 21:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by sandrabrownma 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you females dont like nice guys so whats the problem
2007-02-10 22:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by Clementine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋